Hi Folks, New to this so hope I don't make too many mistakes.Why am I here? Well, maybe I'll feel better for putting this down. It's good to know that there are other people going through similar experiences, though I wish we all weren't.Yet another neighbour has turned against us. That's the 6th lot now in our immediate vicinity. Let me introduce us: husband, 54,math's teacher,totally unemotional,does nothing but math's and watch sport. Me, 47,tearful little mouse,emotional to a fault, we both find socialising very difficult and keep ourselves to ourselves. My step-daughter,23, lives with partner and baby, NORMAL!lol. My daughter, 21, at uni, has a 2year old and they both live with us. Seeing psychologist for body dysmorphic/ocb stuff. Our daughter, 18,hasn't left the house since April. Her words, "Too fat and ugly to go out". Has occasional phone contact with old friend. Serious sexual assault at age 14. Some one coming to see her to help next week. Grandson, 2, slow to talk, very active, Father with ADHD and epilepsy. And then our difficult child, 16,ODD and Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). Mainstream was a disaster, but just left residential special school where he was no trouble at all! Used to be violent with me, but now its just verbal, but I back down everytime. That school was the best thing that happened to him, but no funding to keep him there another 2 years (that's another story). Actually made a few friends there, who have been to stay, and that's where the trouble with the neighbours has come in. In the past, difficult child had annoyed people by going in their gardens and kicking his ball really hard around. He has never damaged anything, though, and I think if this had happened in another part of the town, no-one would think anything of it. Of course, the neighbours yell at him to get out their gardens,and he would tell them where to go. He was there to either get the ball or our cat. Recently, a friend stayed over and the boys were outside drinking alcohol. They threw cans in to the neighbours garden and smashed a bottle down the side of the house, which frightened their little girl. The neighbour had previously yelled at the boys for playing football by his house, so they were angry. That is not an excuse for bad behaviour,they shouldn't have done that and we spoke to them about it. Anyhow, difficult child was playing football with a friend again and the neighbour got really angry, swearing and threatening to rip their heads off. I went around to see the man and ask what had been going on, and he tells me all of the above, and I say please come and tell us anything that happens, that we need to know what has been deliberate anti-social behaviour, like the bottle, or thoughtless behaviour, like a ball going in a garden. I also said that I would prefer him not to swear or use threats, but come and talk to us. I also thought it might be useful to speak to our local police support community officer,to say that we want to resolve matters peacefully.neighbours becoming aggressive will only make matters worse. The neighbour brought the police up too. His wife is a police woman.He said that his wife didn't want him to come around to speak to us. I guess this is pretty garbled? Anyway, being a mouse I've cried and cried all afternoon over this. I hate living here, I'm ashamed and don't want to see anyone when I leave the house. I want to leave. I want to be on my own. difficult child and my hubby are 2 peas in a pod. They could live together. What would happen to daughter who doesn't leave the house? Maybe it's a case of tough love. What about daughter with grandchild? I look after little boy a lot as she has a lot of work at uni. Could I support myself? I work 19 hours, no full time positions. Oh, and to top it all off, I'm on the change, even more emotional and sleepless nights lol! Well, you've got to laugh, eh? Thank's for reading this. It has helped to put it all down. Early start tomorrow, double shift. Keep my phone in pocket on vibrate and sneak to loo to keep up with anyother disasters at home. Bet I'm not the only one on here that does that lol!