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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 630757" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>RB</p><p></p><p>I echo what others have said, it is time to take care of yourself and find a way to live your life!! My son is 22, is currently in jail and has been homeless. Believe it or not they find a way to survive on the streets. I said to my son recently, when he was thinking of running to avoid being arrested, that I know he is a survivor but I dont know how he does because I have never done it! </p><p></p><p>You are not helping your son by enabling him, and by letting him avoid the consequences of his actions. </p><p></p><p>The thing that may help my son is that because of his legal problems he is now in drug court... he may end up doing real time if he doesnt clean up his act, but jail is better than the streets.</p><p></p><p>What I had to realize is that I really cant help my son. I cant control or stop or have any impact at all on his drug use. That has to come from him. I can love him, let him know I love him, but that is all I can do. </p><p></p><p>And believe me he uses my love to manipulate me into giving him things he wants..... I am learning to see through that and hold fast.</p><p></p><p>It is an amazing feeling to get your home back..... when my son was living here I could not wait to go to work Monday morning just to get out of the house..... now I hate Mondays because I dont want to go to work.... my home is now my sanctuary!! That is the way it should be.</p><p></p><p>And it is easier to live your own life when they and their misery is not right under your nose all the time.</p><p></p><p>TL</p><p></p><p></p><p>Sent using ConductDisorders mobile app</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 630757, member: 15801"] RB I echo what others have said, it is time to take care of yourself and find a way to live your life!! My son is 22, is currently in jail and has been homeless. Believe it or not they find a way to survive on the streets. I said to my son recently, when he was thinking of running to avoid being arrested, that I know he is a survivor but I dont know how he does because I have never done it! You are not helping your son by enabling him, and by letting him avoid the consequences of his actions. The thing that may help my son is that because of his legal problems he is now in drug court... he may end up doing real time if he doesnt clean up his act, but jail is better than the streets. What I had to realize is that I really cant help my son. I cant control or stop or have any impact at all on his drug use. That has to come from him. I can love him, let him know I love him, but that is all I can do. And believe me he uses my love to manipulate me into giving him things he wants..... I am learning to see through that and hold fast. It is an amazing feeling to get your home back..... when my son was living here I could not wait to go to work Monday morning just to get out of the house..... now I hate Mondays because I dont want to go to work.... my home is now my sanctuary!! That is the way it should be. And it is easier to live your own life when they and their misery is not right under your nose all the time. TL Sent using ConductDisorders mobile app [/QUOTE]
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