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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 630771" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Welcome RB Mom. We're glad you're here. You've received good advice from our warrior moms. </p><p></p><p>It's very important that you make every effort to get yourself into supportive environments. What needs to change is your response and your perspective, do not wait for your son to change, it is up to you to change, he may not but you can and if you do, you will feel so much better. </p><p></p><p>Read <u>Codependent No More</u> by Melodie Beattie as well as the books others have recommended. You may want to read the article on detachment at the bottom of my post here. You may also want to contact NAMI which is the National Alliance on Mental Illness, they have excellent courses for parents. You can access them online. Al anon, Families anonymous and any 12 step group is invaluable as is private therapy or a therapy group with other parents. </p><p></p><p>At this stage of the game it is not going to be about your son, it's going to be about you. Once you get yourself on level ground, get tools to help you not only survive, but cope well and thrive, get support, encouragement, empathy, understanding and nurturing, you will be in a much better place to make sound, reasonable, balanced and healthy choices for how to deal with your adult son.</p><p></p><p>Keep posting, it helps a lot. We' re here for you. We understand. We get it. Hang in there. I'm glad you found us.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 630771, member: 13542"] Welcome RB Mom. We're glad you're here. You've received good advice from our warrior moms. It's very important that you make every effort to get yourself into supportive environments. What needs to change is your response and your perspective, do not wait for your son to change, it is up to you to change, he may not but you can and if you do, you will feel so much better. Read [U]Codependent No More[/U] by Melodie Beattie as well as the books others have recommended. You may want to read the article on detachment at the bottom of my post here. You may also want to contact NAMI which is the National Alliance on Mental Illness, they have excellent courses for parents. You can access them online. Al anon, Families anonymous and any 12 step group is invaluable as is private therapy or a therapy group with other parents. At this stage of the game it is not going to be about your son, it's going to be about you. Once you get yourself on level ground, get tools to help you not only survive, but cope well and thrive, get support, encouragement, empathy, understanding and nurturing, you will be in a much better place to make sound, reasonable, balanced and healthy choices for how to deal with your adult son. Keep posting, it helps a lot. We' re here for you. We understand. We get it. Hang in there. I'm glad you found us. [/QUOTE]
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