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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 630888" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>RB, I know how hard it is to say what you and husband have said, but I believe that you are right. </p><p></p><p>Remember that your son is a grown man, and he must figure things out on his own. There is so much help out there for him to receive, but he has to want the help, and then he has to do the work.</p><p></p><p>That is the ONLY way anything will ever change.</p><p></p><p>Otherwise, you are like a gerbil on a wheel, going round and round and never getting anywhere.</p><p></p><p>Remember, you are working hard to change yourself and your responses to the eternal bad situation, and it is not going to feel good at all. Lean into it, RB. Just write down what you want to do, and what you know to be true, and what you want to say and do, and keep it with you. Read it again and again. Let it sink in.</p><p></p><p>It's time for him to step up. If you are out of the way, perhaps he can and will. </p><p></p><p>Please keep posting here and know that we support you, no matter what. We know how very very hard this is.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 630888, member: 17542"] RB, I know how hard it is to say what you and husband have said, but I believe that you are right. Remember that your son is a grown man, and he must figure things out on his own. There is so much help out there for him to receive, but he has to want the help, and then he has to do the work. That is the ONLY way anything will ever change. Otherwise, you are like a gerbil on a wheel, going round and round and never getting anywhere. Remember, you are working hard to change yourself and your responses to the eternal bad situation, and it is not going to feel good at all. Lean into it, RB. Just write down what you want to do, and what you know to be true, and what you want to say and do, and keep it with you. Read it again and again. Let it sink in. It's time for him to step up. If you are out of the way, perhaps he can and will. Please keep posting here and know that we support you, no matter what. We know how very very hard this is. [/QUOTE]
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