I guess this is the first stop after joining the forum? right now my biggest struggle is my 12 daughter. she may have some kind of ODD or conduct disorder. she meets the criteria for ODD sometimes, but not all the time. She is driving me over the edge. She is constantly stirring up trouble with her brother, trying to irritate him and me too sometimes. She was on medication for ADHD in the past but off for a few months because it makes her feel spacy. We're going to the doctor today about it and I have a long list of her behaviours I want to discuss, after she leaves the room of course. If I dont get some kind of help, I seriously don't think I will be able to manage her in the coming years. Everytime she gets things all strirred up, she's angry, I'm angry, etc., I get tearful. I make sure she doesnt see that- I dont want her to think I am any more of a pushover than she already does. We had a yelling match this mornnig before school. It really sets it off for a yucky day for us both. Since I recently kicked her step-dad out,(whole other story) she seems to be acting more rude to me. She used to be my best little buddy and had a hate/hate relationship with him, but now that he's gone, she treats me (sometimes) like she did him. She is a bright child, and loving and happy when she chooses to be. I think this may be a good place to start trying to figure out how I can deal with this for my part.