Hi All,
I've never posted here, but have read the forums for help in the past. Thanks for all that.... My story goes like this: I'm 33 yrs old and have a brother who is the "GTG," 29 yrs old. This brother has abused drugs and alcohol for at least 15 yrs. A lot of bad things happened to him over the years because of this, but my parents, mom especially, and girlfriends bailed him out and enabled him, in my opinion. I always tried to "be there" for him, by listening. A year and a half ago he was drunk, got mugged and assaulted and freaked out (not sure what happened) on his fiancee and she broke up with him. Ever since then, it's been downhill and I am tested and my family is exhausted and I feel bad for my parents because they are getting older. He moved out of my parents house at age 27, into an apt my parents paid for and NEVER cleaned it, it looked like a crack house. He was sending me crazy texts about aliens, suicide and dying and he sounded psychotic. This really scared me, I found out he's been drinking when he'd do this. He was supposed to be in school and working at this time, by the way, which he wasn't. He then began obsessed with this "spice" stuff which also turned him psychotic. My parents let him move back in bc they couldn't afford to pay for his apt anymore and sometime after that he stole thousands of dollars from them and stole and pawned my moms jewelry. When my parents found out, they kicked him out, he was homeless, wandering around, supposedly detoxing, although my mom was giving him money. He tried to hang himself in the backyard and had a suicide note blaming my dad and God. I found this out and told my dad who called the cops who took him to the hospital which he left against medical advice. My parents then let him live in the garage on a cot until he promised to go to rehab and the mental hospital. right before he was supposed to go, he told my parents Americorps accepted him, and he is going to the middle of nowhere to work on a trail in a park(supposedly his dream job). I thought it sounded fishy, but was hopeful. He admitted, a few days later he lied he just bought a one way ticket to the middle of nowhere to "get away" and "take a break." He is now stuck out there, in a cabin with no car, no money, no running water. He is demanding we pay for a ticket back home and we are saying no. He is cussing me out and saying terrible things to me. Please someone tell me what is going on and what I and our family should do. My feelings are so overwhelmed I cant see clearly.
I've never posted here, but have read the forums for help in the past. Thanks for all that.... My story goes like this: I'm 33 yrs old and have a brother who is the "GTG," 29 yrs old. This brother has abused drugs and alcohol for at least 15 yrs. A lot of bad things happened to him over the years because of this, but my parents, mom especially, and girlfriends bailed him out and enabled him, in my opinion. I always tried to "be there" for him, by listening. A year and a half ago he was drunk, got mugged and assaulted and freaked out (not sure what happened) on his fiancee and she broke up with him. Ever since then, it's been downhill and I am tested and my family is exhausted and I feel bad for my parents because they are getting older. He moved out of my parents house at age 27, into an apt my parents paid for and NEVER cleaned it, it looked like a crack house. He was sending me crazy texts about aliens, suicide and dying and he sounded psychotic. This really scared me, I found out he's been drinking when he'd do this. He was supposed to be in school and working at this time, by the way, which he wasn't. He then began obsessed with this "spice" stuff which also turned him psychotic. My parents let him move back in bc they couldn't afford to pay for his apt anymore and sometime after that he stole thousands of dollars from them and stole and pawned my moms jewelry. When my parents found out, they kicked him out, he was homeless, wandering around, supposedly detoxing, although my mom was giving him money. He tried to hang himself in the backyard and had a suicide note blaming my dad and God. I found this out and told my dad who called the cops who took him to the hospital which he left against medical advice. My parents then let him live in the garage on a cot until he promised to go to rehab and the mental hospital. right before he was supposed to go, he told my parents Americorps accepted him, and he is going to the middle of nowhere to work on a trail in a park(supposedly his dream job). I thought it sounded fishy, but was hopeful. He admitted, a few days later he lied he just bought a one way ticket to the middle of nowhere to "get away" and "take a break." He is now stuck out there, in a cabin with no car, no money, no running water. He is demanding we pay for a ticket back home and we are saying no. He is cussing me out and saying terrible things to me. Please someone tell me what is going on and what I and our family should do. My feelings are so overwhelmed I cant see clearly.