some of u may know from my previous posts that my usually easy child 16 yr old daughter (stephanie)is pregnant, so after days upon days of begging i signed the papers for them to get married. (which he had proposed before the whole baby thing ) he is 18 (chris). i thought to myself you know maybe it will work out and the baby will need its father. they were marrid on the 7th of this month. info on chris's background =he was living in the children's home due to his parents (dad and stepmom)drug (meth)use "which i didnt find out til later" as where his bros ans sis .the day he turned 18 in dec he moved back in with parents.(i was told a friend of fathers had brought the drugs into the home without their knowledge and the police had been investigating this man and busted him in their home which was only partly true "the man did go to court for this and got rehab"but his parent where involved " well, the next day after they marry i find out he had quit his job weeks before hand. well i let that go because he kept saying he had been putting applications in.within 4 days stephanie was stayijng with her granny (my mom) she said because she didnt have a way to go to work from there or to school. i later find out these so called parents have been using drugs and making them in front of my daughter! pot and meth usage. and when confronted about this chris says yes they were using but not making thats why i want out too. but i have no place to go besides there . i believe this and have been trying to help them get a place together. and also told her and him if she did go back up there the police and the social services would be contacted because she was not living in a drug world! well, stephanie has been working at walmart which he kept saying he was waiting for them to call him also. he goes for drug test. and yesterday they called and he lied to my mom and told her it came back invalid (which would mean he had tried to trick the test) so stephanie kept ask8ing him and he said the lab tech said their was methinamine in their due to the fact he had drank cough syrup , so me and her go to the lab and they say no that type of medication would not mess up test. so he finally tells her his parents had told him that where they used in front of him it could make him fail so he got another boy to pee for him in a bottle (i can see the lie in his face)and it was the boys urine that had the meth in it. so me and stephanie go and get a drug test from th store because she told him she was not having anything to do with him if he was using . so he keeps stalling and drinking lots of water. and acting real nervous . this was a 5 min test . it only took 30 sec. to show up pot was in his system.(which means it showing up that fast and with a red line (which means close usage ....if it had been a few days it would have been pinkl) then he just looks at her without her saying a word (he knew by the look on her face that she knew )and leaves walking down the road. yes he is walking because the car that me and hub gave them he wrecked within 3 days (so said a bag flew in front of the car causing accident...douptful!) so after plenty of begging and pleading for her to talk to him , he lies to her and tells her this that he had run out of cigs the day before and his dad rolls his own cigs but he was out of papers so he takes his dad's pipe (for the pot) and puts cig tobacco in there and smokes it so that has to be why it was in his system . ....dear lord even i who cannot lie with a straight face could have thought of something better than that! and i had to say something (she had him on speaker phone ) i told her and him that it was a lie and (sorry for my way of putting things sometimes when im upset) but to just grow a set and be a man and just tell the truth!! so daughter goes to conselor at school (she trusts him) and talks to him about it. he says he believes chris is using because of his parents . i do not believe this i believe if u use its ur own fault unless u are a small child. but since he is 18 he cannot go back to the childrens home which is beyond me because if he had stayed he could have still been there. so counselor is going to call social services to get him another place to stay if possible. what i dont know is this , will he change ? should i just let this go? i mean if i can turn my life around anyone can. but, this baby and stephanie cant really afford to take any chances . or should i just stay quiete and let her decide what to do? i do not want her living the hell i went through with my ex and i do not want this baby going through the hell i went through as a child. and according to our state laws and social services i am still responsible for her even though she is married . so if she stops going to school and etc. it goes on my shoulders.and i was also told it is my responsibliity to take care of this child because she is underage. sorry so long ..