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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 76007" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p>Well, I have to say that I've read many articles just like this one over the years and I wasn't very impressed. It seemed to me that for the sake of brevity, the author did not spend much time speaking with parents whose children were off the charts with their <span style="color: #990000">"kids who don't talk on time or, alternately, "talk constantly but never seem to get their point across"; kids who have rigid routines or throw "nuclear tantrums"; toddlers who keep to themselves "while the rest of the playgroup lives up to its name."</span>.</p><p></p><p>I would have liked to have read a little more about those kids and how their parents felt (overwhelmed, depressed, under-enthused at the thought of lifelong care issues) and how the children were treated by his/her peers and how the child dealt with other's indifference to his/her 'problems'. Through my own experience with difficult child, I've noticed that in most public schools, the kids are kind to the 'obviously' special needs kid but downright cruel to the 'seemingly normal' special needs kid. And likewise for teachers. In fact, sometimes the teachers were extra hard on difficult child because they thought she was just lazy and I was out of my mind and not pushing enough at home.</p><p></p><p>The line about a teacher pulling aside the boy who likes to only speak of architecture and explaining to him other topics his peers would rather discuss made me laugh out loud. Past Grade One I think few teachers [in a public school setting] would take the time to do this with a student while dealing with a classroom of 28 students. </p><p></p><p>I think this article gave about 2 cents worth of information that we already knew or felt, but most of it was fluff to me. </p><p></p><p>It would be a nice thing if we could all just say that these kids are "quirky", but when they are running around crazy, throwing things and kicking their parents, stealing, dabbling in drug or alcohol, flunking out of school, dealing with the after effects of physical and sexual abuse, and various other horrible, trying things [for parents to deal with], I don't think being thought of as merely "quirky" helps the child (or the parents) in the long term. </p><p></p><p>I am not a fan of labels either and over the past year I have been questioning how I handled my difficult child's diagnosis years ago. However, if it hadn't been for at least one diagnosis and "label", my difficult child would not have received some of the help and therapy she did receive. And despite her diagnosis and classification at her schools, she was still mercilessly teased by her peers and treated indifferently by many of her teachers....they thought she was lazy and that I was making it all up.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 76007, member: 2211"] Well, I have to say that I've read many articles just like this one over the years and I wasn't very impressed. It seemed to me that for the sake of brevity, the author did not spend much time speaking with parents whose children were off the charts with their <span style="color: #990000">"kids who don't talk on time or, alternately, "talk constantly but never seem to get their point across"; kids who have rigid routines or throw "nuclear tantrums"; toddlers who keep to themselves "while the rest of the playgroup lives up to its name."</span>. I would have liked to have read a little more about those kids and how their parents felt (overwhelmed, depressed, under-enthused at the thought of lifelong care issues) and how the children were treated by his/her peers and how the child dealt with other's indifference to his/her 'problems'. Through my own experience with difficult child, I've noticed that in most public schools, the kids are kind to the 'obviously' special needs kid but downright cruel to the 'seemingly normal' special needs kid. And likewise for teachers. In fact, sometimes the teachers were extra hard on difficult child because they thought she was just lazy and I was out of my mind and not pushing enough at home. The line about a teacher pulling aside the boy who likes to only speak of architecture and explaining to him other topics his peers would rather discuss made me laugh out loud. Past Grade One I think few teachers [in a public school setting] would take the time to do this with a student while dealing with a classroom of 28 students. I think this article gave about 2 cents worth of information that we already knew or felt, but most of it was fluff to me. It would be a nice thing if we could all just say that these kids are "quirky", but when they are running around crazy, throwing things and kicking their parents, stealing, dabbling in drug or alcohol, flunking out of school, dealing with the after effects of physical and sexual abuse, and various other horrible, trying things [for parents to deal with], I don't think being thought of as merely "quirky" helps the child (or the parents) in the long term. I am not a fan of labels either and over the past year I have been questioning how I handled my difficult child's diagnosis years ago. However, if it hadn't been for at least one diagnosis and "label", my difficult child would not have received some of the help and therapy she did receive. And despite her diagnosis and classification at her schools, she was still mercilessly teased by her peers and treated indifferently by many of her teachers....they thought she was lazy and that I was making it all up. [/QUOTE]
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