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<blockquote data-quote="wincha" data-source="post: 5304" data-attributes="member: 137"><p>I would teach her to take deep breaths when she is feeling anxious and encourage her to do this when she is on her way to the bathroom or during the stressful situation. Both of these strategies (sometimes called antiseptic bounce) should be encouraged in school--Also perhaps the teacher can sit with her a few minutes to get her going--she can even dictate a sentence or two to get ideas going and flowing (sometimes called hurdle help)-once she is working the teacher can back away. Teachers can use these strategies with our without 504/IEP (except for standardized tests). &gt;&gt;&gt;</p><p></p><p>since they are not forthcoming on how to help my daughter where can i find out this type of info. this is very helpful. </p><p></p><p>any ideas how to word my letter here are the facts:</p><p></p><p>i discussed my daughters diagnosis of anxiety with the principal prior to school and was concerned she had access to the counselor. then on the first day of school i filled in her teacher briefly and in depth talked talked to the counselor. </p><p></p><p>2 days of school ok.</p><p></p><p>next week her birthday went to school anxious. teacher noticed and let her sit outside of classroom until calmed down. there is a desk outside the classroom. 4 classes set up in pods, bookcases between, area in the middle with walls and open doors this is where she can go. </p><p></p><p>then she is not coloring a picture (quilt is called) about herself which she has drawn but not colored. its going on the wall for open house but went to math centers instead(where you were to go after done) so was told to do this. so she did nothing(she shuts down when anxious or when she feels backed against a wall) the teacher called me and she missed recess and colored the next day. friday i recieved one of the official displine letters marked defiance.</p><p></p><p></p><p>then a few days later my daughter was to fill out a goals sheet(written paragraph on her goals for school) the official paper was at home didn't know what it was for. she was asked to do it at school and just sat there, then had to sit there and couldn't use the bathroom for 30-60 minutes not sure then sent to the vp's office to work on it and did not do anything(she shut down) she was able to use the bathroom when she asked the office. she came home complaining it hurt when she peed and she had a small accident. took her to the dr the next day for complaints of back pain for 1 week, tummy pain, and then concerned about possible Urinary Tract Infection (UTI). i got an official displine report on friday for this visit to the vp's office marked defiance.</p><p></p><p>i did talk to the principal about her anxiety and that she was concerned about having access to the counselor. I shared the anxiety diagnosis and history in detail with her counselor and briefly with the teacher.</p><p></p><p>my daughter doesn't like the desk outside the classroom as she feels embarrassed cause kids will see her so this is not a solution the teacher thinks it is a good idea. i have no problem with work coming home while a plan is worked on to help my daughter engage in class and this is not a constant thing either. </p><p></p><p>i talked to another mom who has her daughter in another grade school in our district with some similiar issues she said even for a child who has no disability this is over the top. removing her from class twice and once to the office and 2 disipline referrals in a week. the teacher called me once. i found out from my daughter the 2nd time the counselor was supposed to call me but did not.</p><p></p><p>when i mentioned using the counselor to the teacher her words were the counselor is really a teacher with some counseling classes. when i called to discuss the first problem with the counselor the counselor said she has NEVER seen a child do this and this would bring attention to the child. </p><p></p><p>i need to send a letter documenting this in a nice way and am going to call the principal for a meeting tomorrow. i want my letter to be what i discuss over the phone with him. considering going along these lines but need ideas. </p><p></p><p>1. i discussed with principal, counselor, teacher generalized anxiety disorder</p><p></p><p>2. expressed her need to see the counselor when stressed, in old school i paid for a therapist to work with her at school bimonthly or more when needed</p><p></p><p>3. the school has worked to meet her educational needs in conjunction with her anxiety, the teacher has decided this is not anxiety but oppositional behavior and is removing her from class, not doing any supports to help her engage, and with held a bathroom break which resulted in pain and potential infection and more anxiety</p><p></p><p>4. what are your recommendations to meet my daughters educational needs along with her generalized anxiety disorder, what plan will be in place and why was my daughter not referred to the counselor rather than to the vp for discipline</p><p></p><p>5. i want the discpline referrals to be removed from her record</p><p></p><p>6. there is a doctors order for unrestricted bathroom breaks</p><p></p><p>7. i have talked with her therapist to share information with school/counselor of what works with angela and what she has worked on with her</p><p></p><p>i want to be nice in this letter. i was in the process having the therapist contact the school BUT i got those 2 letters. we worked with the principal before my younger son went there for kindergarten and he is upfront and honest. he is the one to go for issues with my daughters grade, we are asked to talk to teacher first which i have done 3 times once first day of school, then at open house, then when i picked her up early to go to dr. these were all informal chats i initiated and not teacher/parent conferences.</p><p></p><p></p><p>sorry that was alot. but any suggestions on how to word the letter. i am calling the principal to set up a meeting to go over this and will mail him a copy of my concerns. i will voice them over the phone first for his suggestions. my daughter is in a new school just starting her buspar again she did fine with summer without it.</p><p></p><p>thanx!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="wincha, post: 5304, member: 137"] I would teach her to take deep breaths when she is feeling anxious and encourage her to do this when she is on her way to the bathroom or during the stressful situation. Both of these strategies (sometimes called antiseptic bounce) should be encouraged in school--Also perhaps the teacher can sit with her a few minutes to get her going--she can even dictate a sentence or two to get ideas going and flowing (sometimes called hurdle help)-once she is working the teacher can back away. Teachers can use these strategies with our without 504/IEP (except for standardized tests). >>> since they are not forthcoming on how to help my daughter where can i find out this type of info. this is very helpful. any ideas how to word my letter here are the facts: i discussed my daughters diagnosis of anxiety with the principal prior to school and was concerned she had access to the counselor. then on the first day of school i filled in her teacher briefly and in depth talked talked to the counselor. 2 days of school ok. next week her birthday went to school anxious. teacher noticed and let her sit outside of classroom until calmed down. there is a desk outside the classroom. 4 classes set up in pods, bookcases between, area in the middle with walls and open doors this is where she can go. then she is not coloring a picture (quilt is called) about herself which she has drawn but not colored. its going on the wall for open house but went to math centers instead(where you were to go after done) so was told to do this. so she did nothing(she shuts down when anxious or when she feels backed against a wall) the teacher called me and she missed recess and colored the next day. friday i recieved one of the official displine letters marked defiance. then a few days later my daughter was to fill out a goals sheet(written paragraph on her goals for school) the official paper was at home didn't know what it was for. she was asked to do it at school and just sat there, then had to sit there and couldn't use the bathroom for 30-60 minutes not sure then sent to the vp's office to work on it and did not do anything(she shut down) she was able to use the bathroom when she asked the office. she came home complaining it hurt when she peed and she had a small accident. took her to the dr the next day for complaints of back pain for 1 week, tummy pain, and then concerned about possible Urinary Tract Infection (UTI). i got an official displine report on friday for this visit to the vp's office marked defiance. i did talk to the principal about her anxiety and that she was concerned about having access to the counselor. I shared the anxiety diagnosis and history in detail with her counselor and briefly with the teacher. my daughter doesn't like the desk outside the classroom as she feels embarrassed cause kids will see her so this is not a solution the teacher thinks it is a good idea. i have no problem with work coming home while a plan is worked on to help my daughter engage in class and this is not a constant thing either. i talked to another mom who has her daughter in another grade school in our district with some similiar issues she said even for a child who has no disability this is over the top. removing her from class twice and once to the office and 2 disipline referrals in a week. the teacher called me once. i found out from my daughter the 2nd time the counselor was supposed to call me but did not. when i mentioned using the counselor to the teacher her words were the counselor is really a teacher with some counseling classes. when i called to discuss the first problem with the counselor the counselor said she has NEVER seen a child do this and this would bring attention to the child. i need to send a letter documenting this in a nice way and am going to call the principal for a meeting tomorrow. i want my letter to be what i discuss over the phone with him. considering going along these lines but need ideas. 1. i discussed with principal, counselor, teacher generalized anxiety disorder 2. expressed her need to see the counselor when stressed, in old school i paid for a therapist to work with her at school bimonthly or more when needed 3. the school has worked to meet her educational needs in conjunction with her anxiety, the teacher has decided this is not anxiety but oppositional behavior and is removing her from class, not doing any supports to help her engage, and with held a bathroom break which resulted in pain and potential infection and more anxiety 4. what are your recommendations to meet my daughters educational needs along with her generalized anxiety disorder, what plan will be in place and why was my daughter not referred to the counselor rather than to the vp for discipline 5. i want the discpline referrals to be removed from her record 6. there is a doctors order for unrestricted bathroom breaks 7. i have talked with her therapist to share information with school/counselor of what works with angela and what she has worked on with her i want to be nice in this letter. i was in the process having the therapist contact the school BUT i got those 2 letters. we worked with the principal before my younger son went there for kindergarten and he is upfront and honest. he is the one to go for issues with my daughters grade, we are asked to talk to teacher first which i have done 3 times once first day of school, then at open house, then when i picked her up early to go to dr. these were all informal chats i initiated and not teacher/parent conferences. sorry that was alot. but any suggestions on how to word the letter. i am calling the principal to set up a meeting to go over this and will mail him a copy of my concerns. i will voice them over the phone first for his suggestions. my daughter is in a new school just starting her buspar again she did fine with summer without it. thanx!!!! 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