I dunno where it came from, I swear. One minute we're talking about how the 2 of us aren't the most social creatures in the world......the next Nichole pops out with : I just realized when someone gets too close I pick a fight with them to push them away. I swear you could actually see the lighbulb turn on. It was awesome. That was a few days ago. Since then she's made up with a lifelong friend she'd had a falling out with over something silly, and with S whom she'd started fighting with because she was feeling a bit smothered by the girl. I know this is a typical Borderline (BPD) behavior. But I think it's significant that she came to realize that she was doing it on her own. Now hopefully she'll watch for the behavior and correct it.