Things have been going ok for a little bit with my 37 year old daughter and her 43 year old boyfriend . Our neighborhood has a large Memorial Day party each year with a live band and cook out. I volunteer to help each year, cooking, cleaning, serving. My daughter has been volunteering with her dad and me for many years. This year she brings her boyfriend. I said hi to him three times and he looks right through me. I think to myself ok what have I done? Since I have not seen him in a while and the last time I saw him we left on ok terms. I tell my daughter how he is ignoring me and she said 'his behavior towards you is unacceptable' then he starts acting irritated and odd, clearly he is having bad day. I know the problem is within him. Even though I know this, it hurt me to the bone. When I went to bed I had a nightmare that my daughter, her boyfriend and I were driving in a truck, we all were in the front seat and he tried to drive the truck into a fence in the field. I woke up in a cold sweat and dreamed again the same dream except the field and fence were different. For the sake of my own mental health I have to close my relationship with him completely. I really have tried to see the best in him and I saw an improvement but this last crap that he pulled will be the last. It was more than him just ignoring me, it was his awful behavior the rest of the time they were at the party. Both of them together is the worst ugly mess. Both are the last born (babies) in the family and it has taken forever for both of them to grow up. I have had other sad things happen this week but his behavior towards me hurt worse than all the other stuff.. I guess it is because I want a workable relationship so desperately. I want harmony, fun and laughter.. Today I know deep in my heart that I will have to cut all ties with my daughter's boyfriend. I will not allow him in my presence anymore. I know that in any relationship the are ebbs and flows sometimes more so on some days but with my daughter and her boyfriend the ebbs and flows turn into peeks and valleys. I am concerned for their safety. NEVER would I be with a man that would treat my mother like her boyfriend has treated me. I don't care if it is called bipolar, autism, evil, borderline or what ever it feels evil and I have no time or patience for it. I am just deeply grateful that I married an intelligent, hard working, good providing, honest, decent, stable man. To me he is good looking, he looks like Hugh Jackman plus he works out so he feels good. I guess I just desperately want this for my daughter. I want her to have a man that can move them both ahead as a couple and do healthy things instead of taking CBC oil and watching stupid movies all the time or fighting. And what can I do about any of this? NOTHING. I know the magic word is Detach. I guess detaching is even harder when things went smooth. My bipolar mother in law was nasty to me. That relationship kept me off balance. It would have been best if I just got off completely. I never wanted a rocky relationship with my daughter's boyfriend. I promised myself that I would never treat any daughter in law or son in law awful in anyway. I have tried, I have tried hard. It is time for me to cut all ties with my daughter's boyfriend. All of them. Thanks for letting me vent.