Littleboylost
Long road but the path ahead holds hope.
This is my first post here and let me start by saying I am grateful to have found this forum.
We have been through Hell and back again with our 17 (almost) 18 year old son. He began dabbling in pot early on in his teens and it had progressively gotten worse and involved other drugs over time. We tried evry intervention possible. He had a part time job and looked to be straightening out. We soon realized he no longer had a part time job and we suspected he was selling drugs. This was confirmed by a screen shot from a friend of his Instagram account where he was selling pot and cocaine.
We gave him an ultimatum leave or stop the drugs. He did a runner with the car we reported the car stolen. Police found him and the car returned the keys to us and refused to charge him with theft! He was gone a week called begging to come home we put a contract in place go to school, no drugs, home by 10 pm... the ususal. By day 3 he had breached cerfew and was found with a large sum of pot and again more than personal consumption. We called the police which we told him we would do. They found Cocaine on him as well. Arrested we paid bail same rules in place. He breached in a few days ran again. In a week he called weeping again saying he will change, we picked him up turned him over the the authorities. The courts did not charge him with breach. We refused to act as Surety for bail. A third party youth association for disenfranchised youth stepped up to cover his bail. We allowed him home same rules. I found pot bowl and papers on him but no drugs and I pitched them. Next morning my husband was not sure he had a pulse, was able to wake him. Took him to Dr. He was admitted and held for 24 hours he was acting out, which he does often taking inappropriate temper tantrums. They sedated him and after 24 hours transferred him to a detox and rehab floor. He had THC, amphetamines and Xanax in his system. He checked himself out. This time we said he was not welcome home until he gets the help he needs and can provide us with information that he is clean of all drugs for 30 days.
We provided him with the numbers of community resources that can help him.
He went from having a home, cell phone, car privledges to nothing. I pray this turns him around.
Each time he declares he want to get help and get clean and each time we let him back home he is right back to lying, stealing and using.
Is there anything we have not tried? Is there any hope he will change?
We have been through Hell and back again with our 17 (almost) 18 year old son. He began dabbling in pot early on in his teens and it had progressively gotten worse and involved other drugs over time. We tried evry intervention possible. He had a part time job and looked to be straightening out. We soon realized he no longer had a part time job and we suspected he was selling drugs. This was confirmed by a screen shot from a friend of his Instagram account where he was selling pot and cocaine.
We gave him an ultimatum leave or stop the drugs. He did a runner with the car we reported the car stolen. Police found him and the car returned the keys to us and refused to charge him with theft! He was gone a week called begging to come home we put a contract in place go to school, no drugs, home by 10 pm... the ususal. By day 3 he had breached cerfew and was found with a large sum of pot and again more than personal consumption. We called the police which we told him we would do. They found Cocaine on him as well. Arrested we paid bail same rules in place. He breached in a few days ran again. In a week he called weeping again saying he will change, we picked him up turned him over the the authorities. The courts did not charge him with breach. We refused to act as Surety for bail. A third party youth association for disenfranchised youth stepped up to cover his bail. We allowed him home same rules. I found pot bowl and papers on him but no drugs and I pitched them. Next morning my husband was not sure he had a pulse, was able to wake him. Took him to Dr. He was admitted and held for 24 hours he was acting out, which he does often taking inappropriate temper tantrums. They sedated him and after 24 hours transferred him to a detox and rehab floor. He had THC, amphetamines and Xanax in his system. He checked himself out. This time we said he was not welcome home until he gets the help he needs and can provide us with information that he is clean of all drugs for 30 days.
We provided him with the numbers of community resources that can help him.
He went from having a home, cell phone, car privledges to nothing. I pray this turns him around.
Each time he declares he want to get help and get clean and each time we let him back home he is right back to lying, stealing and using.
Is there anything we have not tried? Is there any hope he will change?
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