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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 656577" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Here's a suggestion. Don't tell him he has a disability. Tell him his verbal IQ is so much higher than his performance level IQ that it kind of unbalances the way he learns so he needs extra time to figure things out. Explain that you know it makes him feel bad and it's a pain in the neck but that if somebody will give him time, answer any questions he has, and will work with him...maybe through Workforce Development...he CAN succeed.</p><p>SBB, I won't lie. I had no help and without it I lost job after job. Exployers expect you to pick things up quick and I couldn't process that fast or multi-task. A person with a NonVerbal Learning Disorder (NVLD) needs a certain type of job just for him and the DWD will help place him and even give him a job coach until he is on his own. He is not an alien, he has a different way of intaking information and that slows him down a bit. Keep the word "disability" out of it except to say that he has to apply for it. And tell him plainly that it does not mean he is "stupid" or even "not bright" or any "less" than anybody else. Tell him it gives him extra $$$ (he has to like that) and he will get extra help and lots of people use it. It's a tool to launch him ahead since he is stuck.</p><p></p><p>If he says "No, I'm just stupid and I can't do anything" tell him in a sharp voice, "I don't want a capable young man like you to ever say that word about yourself again. Let's check out this Workforce Vocational Rehab and to show you that you are smart...just a little different. And the world would be boring if we were all the same."</p><p></p><p>It is hard to be different in any way. You are misunderstood and often teased and you tend to feel you are not as worthy as other people. My family gave me the "you're just not trying" garbage. I think if they had used other verbage and tried to understand, I'd have at least felt better about myself and attitude matters! So does Mom as a cheerleader, I'm sure (I never had one). No matter how old you are, that has to feel good. Get him positive!</p><p></p><p>Hey...it's worth a try <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> I feel for your boy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 656577, member: 1550"] Here's a suggestion. Don't tell him he has a disability. Tell him his verbal IQ is so much higher than his performance level IQ that it kind of unbalances the way he learns so he needs extra time to figure things out. Explain that you know it makes him feel bad and it's a pain in the neck but that if somebody will give him time, answer any questions he has, and will work with him...maybe through Workforce Development...he CAN succeed. SBB, I won't lie. I had no help and without it I lost job after job. Exployers expect you to pick things up quick and I couldn't process that fast or multi-task. A person with a NonVerbal Learning Disorder (NVLD) needs a certain type of job just for him and the DWD will help place him and even give him a job coach until he is on his own. He is not an alien, he has a different way of intaking information and that slows him down a bit. Keep the word "disability" out of it except to say that he has to apply for it. And tell him plainly that it does not mean he is "stupid" or even "not bright" or any "less" than anybody else. Tell him it gives him extra $$$ (he has to like that) and he will get extra help and lots of people use it. It's a tool to launch him ahead since he is stuck. If he says "No, I'm just stupid and I can't do anything" tell him in a sharp voice, "I don't want a capable young man like you to ever say that word about yourself again. Let's check out this Workforce Vocational Rehab and to show you that you are smart...just a little different. And the world would be boring if we were all the same." It is hard to be different in any way. You are misunderstood and often teased and you tend to feel you are not as worthy as other people. My family gave me the "you're just not trying" garbage. I think if they had used other verbage and tried to understand, I'd have at least felt better about myself and attitude matters! So does Mom as a cheerleader, I'm sure (I never had one). No matter how old you are, that has to feel good. Get him positive! Hey...it's worth a try ;) I feel for your boy. [/QUOTE]
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