I know I could post this in substance abuse forum, but I am looking to any parents emeritus to share any been there done that experience. difficult child is working hard this summer on his football. He also realizes that his 11th grade report card of C's and D's should have been better..but he is the typical ADHD ODD kid, drawn to the brightest light and never misses an opportunity to shoot himself in the foot. Maybe 12th grade will go better and he'll listen to all of the people trying to help him help himself. Will likely do a gap year before college. Question is his pot smoking...I believe he's got it down to just at night, and I know he's got some positive peer reinforcement to keep it under control. The pot smoking was our number 1 issue a few years ago when he would smoke all day at school, cut classes, and lie to us about everything. I do believe he's doing better, but the smoking is still wavering to a daily thing. He's not doing any other drugs, and its not heading in that direction. We have two choices: 1) bust him and be hard noses (cancel road test, grounded) and endure his screaming and raving. 2) keep a quiet eye on it and be happy he's working on his football and seems to be slowly maturing and recognizing that responsibility and balance is a part of life. Looking long term here..realizing that difficult child will require our support and discipline for many more years. THanks for any perspective!