I didn't get to talk to Wiz today. He didn't answer when I called. I don't call the house phone when we know my mom is sick because it bothers her. We got postponed until Monday because she was sick (likely her blood pressure was way up because gfgbro wouldn't leave or made some kind of big deal drama play), so we didn't go over. I feel bad, but I cannot force him to talk to me. He is 19 after all, even if my mom wants to blame the lack of contact all on me. I miss him. But it is getting easier and easier to just let him be as I get an answer or return call on about one out of five or six phone calls. He will call husband if I call him, so I don't really know what to do about it. Is this something I should be upset and be pushing him about? Or should I figure he knows where I am and what my number is, and that I love him, and let it be up to him? When I do get to talk to him, he rarely has more than 2-3 sentences to say or more than 1-2 minutes to spend on the phone with me. There is always something going on. In many ways I feel he chose to have very little relationship with me, but I still love him. I just don't know how much I should bang my head and heart against the wall trying to build a relationship with him. He will tell husband, Jess, my mom and dad, and others about how he wants to spend time with me, but unless it is something like taking him to a big sale at a bookstore an hour away he won't actually DO anything with me or speak to me. Heck, he won't even go with us to a movie or dinner unless it happens that I am not going. Not sure it is deliberate or the schedules and my illness work that way, but it is what it is. Any advice/suggestions? He will not discuss this with me and husband is clueless.