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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 626727" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>I am so glad you posted. I was wondering what happened in court. I hope you an post again, when you feel ready, when you know what the decisions were today.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes, I understand that. Mothers are warm. We want to be warm people. I'm glad you were warm too. I'm not always warm.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Ouch! I remember when that happened! I hate to be called out...even when I feel OK about what I did. I'm not strong enough to feel OK when some one shakes the tree a little. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>It is good that they remind us ALL THE TIME, right??? gotta laugh. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I have this conversation in my head and in person with difficult child. Sometimes he says "I'm happy, mom" and I think "Uh, it isn't all about you." Sometimes of course I am so so so relieved that he is happy enough, not scared, cold, miserable, frightened. Sometimes I tell him exactly that...our purpose here is to do good in the world. Sometimes I see that he can feel an echo of wanting to help...he used to serve in a soup kitchen, and I know her liked that a lot. No reason he couldn't still do that. I wish he would.</p><p></p><p>You are in limbo now, waiting to hear, to know, so you can adjust accordingly. It is an emotional day indeed. Be very very gentle with yourself. If I could call your SO and tell him to be gentle and kind today I would (because I am a not-yet-recovered controlling enabler!)</p><p></p><p>Hugs to you my friend,</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 626727, member: 17269"] I am so glad you posted. I was wondering what happened in court. I hope you an post again, when you feel ready, when you know what the decisions were today. Yes, I understand that. Mothers are warm. We want to be warm people. I'm glad you were warm too. I'm not always warm. Ouch! I remember when that happened! I hate to be called out...even when I feel OK about what I did. I'm not strong enough to feel OK when some one shakes the tree a little. It is good that they remind us ALL THE TIME, right??? gotta laugh. I have this conversation in my head and in person with difficult child. Sometimes he says "I'm happy, mom" and I think "Uh, it isn't all about you." Sometimes of course I am so so so relieved that he is happy enough, not scared, cold, miserable, frightened. Sometimes I tell him exactly that...our purpose here is to do good in the world. Sometimes I see that he can feel an echo of wanting to help...he used to serve in a soup kitchen, and I know her liked that a lot. No reason he couldn't still do that. I wish he would. You are in limbo now, waiting to hear, to know, so you can adjust accordingly. It is an emotional day indeed. Be very very gentle with yourself. If I could call your SO and tell him to be gentle and kind today I would (because I am a not-yet-recovered controlling enabler!) Hugs to you my friend, Echo [/QUOTE]
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