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<blockquote data-quote="JayPee" data-source="post: 754423" data-attributes="member: 23405"><p>Overcome</p><p></p><p>I feel your pain. I was married for 30 years to an alcoholic and I’d have to say most of it involved alcohol and conflicts. The last ten years it became progressively worst. I find it interesting that you slip it into the conversation as you mentioned nonchalantly.</p><p></p><p>I still remember about 4 yrs ago I had contacted one of the rehabs locally and began discussing drug issues with my son and how I could help him. Then in conversation I recall saying nonchalantly oh and by the way I’m married to an alcoholic. The woman on the other end stopped me in my tracks and said please if there’s nothing else you do for yourself today contact Al anon. I had never shared out loud my problems and she was the first person to show me compassion. As you are fully aware being married to an active alcoholic not much attention is given to yourself. It’s always about dealing with the next crisis and how you’re going to make everything normal again to the public eye.</p><p></p><p>It still took me another year to get to Al anon because I didn’t see me as the problem and misunderstood the program. I’ve been in Al anon almost 3 years and have been divorced two and have learned self care. A very foreign concept to me.</p><p></p><p>In my opinion just taking the problem out of isolation is the first step albeit in a very long journey to your recovery.</p><p></p><p>Always remember you didn’t cause it you can’t cure it and you can’t control it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JayPee, post: 754423, member: 23405"] Overcome I feel your pain. I was married for 30 years to an alcoholic and I’d have to say most of it involved alcohol and conflicts. The last ten years it became progressively worst. I find it interesting that you slip it into the conversation as you mentioned nonchalantly. I still remember about 4 yrs ago I had contacted one of the rehabs locally and began discussing drug issues with my son and how I could help him. Then in conversation I recall saying nonchalantly oh and by the way I’m married to an alcoholic. The woman on the other end stopped me in my tracks and said please if there’s nothing else you do for yourself today contact Al anon. I had never shared out loud my problems and she was the first person to show me compassion. As you are fully aware being married to an active alcoholic not much attention is given to yourself. It’s always about dealing with the next crisis and how you’re going to make everything normal again to the public eye. It still took me another year to get to Al anon because I didn’t see me as the problem and misunderstood the program. I’ve been in Al anon almost 3 years and have been divorced two and have learned self care. A very foreign concept to me. In my opinion just taking the problem out of isolation is the first step albeit in a very long journey to your recovery. Always remember you didn’t cause it you can’t cure it and you can’t control it. [/QUOTE]
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