but, I just hate this so much. I know it is best for him. They let him call me and after the punch and meltdown yesterday he continued to beg me...so mom, will you come get me. there are houses around here, we can just do a few, (gave same answer, we have to talk to dr. and then he will decide) when pressed i asked what did I say. He said, you said you are coming and if I am good you can get me. I said, it is not my decision. Its not, it is an insurance thing and I did try to tell him that once safe in hospital. yesterday. but he doesn't want to hear it. On phone he started the threats, if you dont come i will beat you up to make you take me (duh, I wont be there to beat up, but that is difficult child logic) started swearing and folks started surrounding him (I know because he said, stop surrounding me). I just said I love you, bye. their phones dont call out so he can't call me without them calling from desk then transferring the call. THAT is what I neeed at home! anyway, to tell the truth, I wanted to go trick or treating with him. I love it and we have fun once there. he does great (we have worked hard over the years) not pushing thru kids, taking turns ringing the bell, etc. He always says thanks. It is just one of those few good mommy/son times. Now I worry he will talk about the year he didn't get to go for years and years. He missed one fourth of July due to a meltdown and it was 8 years ago. He still talks about it every holiday. For those of you who have adopted.... difficult child was adopted (well placed but he doesn't know the difference) in Oct. I was always told that I might see an anniversary problem. We have always noticed meltdowns increasing in Oct but I really connect it more to holiday stuff. Do you guys see anniversary stuff? I posted in watercooler... the Occupational Therapist (OT) called and has great ideas. she is working with him and doctor and she are writing a report to order outpatient Occupational Therapist (OT) again. AND I said they need an Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) unit and she said it IS part of the new building they are creating. A unit for kids with Autism spectrum/aspergers/sensory integration disorder. both outpatient and inpatient. woo hoo. but I doubt it will be done with much time left for my difficult child. I hope they go into the 20's not just 18. difficult child will be 18 as a junior in highschool. He will still need adolescent care. our pediatrician goes to age 23.