Not looking forward to tonight - or tomorrow

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by HaoZi, Jan 6, 2013.

  1. HaoZi

    HaoZi Guest

    School starts back tomorrow. This means a shower tonight for a kid that's shower/bath resistant (can you say MELTDOWN?) and 5am mornings again for someone who is decidedly not a morning person. Soooo not looking forward to school starting back up. Oy. She had a nice meltdown last night over who-knows-what (never did get quite to the bottom of that one) and was up until almost midnight.
  2. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    Sending supportive thoughts and hugs your way. Parenting is an itch and as one who has been there done that the only positive thing I can offer is that it does........eventually.........end. Hugs DDD
  3. cubsgirl

    cubsgirl Well-Known Member

    I so understand. My difficult child spent an hour trying to convince me that today was not Sunday and that school does not resume tomorrow. All I can say is that he better not miss the bus tomorrow.
  4. StressedM0mma

    StressedM0mma Active Member

    Good luck to both of you tmrw. I am right there with you. difficult child already told me that she does not want to go to school tomorrow. I am trying to stay positive, and hoping that she goes in on her own. She starts with a new t-doctor tmrw night so I think she will go and be on time so that she can say "see there is no problem" Fingers pretzeled for everyone that starts back to school tomorrow.
  5. buddy

    buddy New Member

    Hoping it goes well! Hugs
  6. HaoZi

    HaoZi Guest

    Lost the shower before it hit meltdown stage. She promises she'll take one tomorrow (we'll see - we have an award system in place for it so maybe) but she went to bed without a fuss.
  7. SearchingForRainbows

    SearchingForRainbows Active Member


    As another parent who has been there done that, the only positive thing I can think of is what DDD already said, it will end!! Although I'm sure at the moment it feels like an eternity before then, it will happen!!

    In the meantime, all I can suggest is to keep on doing what you're already doing - Pick your battles wisely, ignore what you can, deal with the rest... NOT FUN!! Just try to remember while you're going through HE77 on earth, that it will end!! Repeat as often as necessary.

    Sending lots of positive thoughts your way that this morning goes much smoother then expected... Hugs... SFR
  8. StressedM0mma

    StressedM0mma Active Member

    Well, difficult child is up getting ready at our house, it will just be whether she actually steps into the school building, and is on time. We need to leave in about 5 or 6 minutes so I am not holding my breath on this one.
  9. HaoZi

    HaoZi Guest

    Got her off on the bus okay. Her new friend started at her school today. He's Aspie/bi-polar/schizoaffective and doesn't do well on buses, his mom is hoping she'll help him do okay on the bus, so we'll see how that goes. Crossing fingers that it goes well and will make her look forward to getting up and out in the morning. Mornings are easier with my boyfriend here, no shouting matches when he's here, but he goes on-call in a couple weeks and will be gone for a week starting the 28th, so I'll be on my own again and back to trying my patience and bribing her to get up and out on time without meltdowns. Last time the bribing helped, and it was right before break so it was an easier time for her, now I'm hoping her new friend does well enough that she'll want to get out there to see him.
  10. SearchingForRainbows

    SearchingForRainbows Active Member

    Glad to hear this morning started off smoothly:D... Hoping this is the beginning of many more good mornings...
  11. Bunny

    Bunny Guest

    The first day back to school is always a PITA! I hope that it goes well for everyone. My fingers and toes are crossed for all of you.
  12. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    Yikes! I hate making our kids take showers but it is SO typical.

    Fingers crossed for the time when your boyfriend is out of town. I hope you can put a plan in place and it works.
  13. StressedM0mma

    StressedM0mma Active Member

    Well, difficult child was ready, and we got to school, but she was refusing to go in. So, a call to guidance and and escort, and she went into the building. I honestly do not know how much longer I can keep this up. It stresses me out. Thank goodness we see the new therapist tonight.
  14. IT1967

    IT1967 Member

    Wow, I thought I was the only one. difficult child 1 had a HUGE meltdown (anxiety over returning to school and worrying she's going to lose it in class), and then had another meltdown because she felt bad about melting down. She got off to school just fine, but yesterday was bad. And it's just gotten to the point with-me that I sink so low when this happens that I am having trouble coping myself. I am dreading getting an email from her teacher telling me it was a bad day - praying praying praying it went well.
  15. HaoZi

    HaoZi Guest

    Just talked to the friend's mom. The friend does half days (he's been kicked out of other schools even with IEPs, he's a lot to handle apparently), and he had a great day even though he forgot to take his medications this morning. Friend's mom can get Kiddo on the bus when my boyfriend is on call so I won't have to go in to work late that week, either.
    I'll know soon how Kiddo's day went. So far no emails from the school saying it's not been decent, so here's hoping!
  16. InsaneCdn

    InsaneCdn Well-Known Member

    Oh, now, wouldn't THAT be a nice break? Two warrior moms who can help each other out. Hope it works!
  17. HaoZi

    HaoZi Guest

    Kiddo said she "forgot a lot of things" (i.e. how to do stuff) but the day went fast. Not sure if she has homework or not (yet another potential meltdown issue, even with as little as she tends to have), and haven't broached the shower yet, but she seems in decent spirits at the moment. She dashed into the bathroom with a book upon arriving home so not much time to talk to her just yet.