If I can just get through these next 2 days, everything will be okay. My brother in law and sister in law are coming over on Christmas for dinner. I am always very generous to them, all year round. My sister in law is a new addition to the family and she always brings her brother and his latest girlfriend and some girlfriend's kids, I am happy they come along. I always - 3 years now- buy them all gifts. They never give my kids anything. Who cares? I'm not about that. They have a 3 year old and a 23 year old. They say they don't have money but they make the same as us. by the way a conversation took place recently, sister in law was getting her pedicure so she wasn't there. The conversation was brother in law telling us, no gifts! Great! I respect that and won't give gifts. Now husband said, "Too late! You are all getting gifts!" I said I will return them, I wouldn't want anyone to be uncomfortable. brother in law said, "Oh no, we won't be uncomfortable, you go right ahead and give us gifts." not in those exact words. This is not going to be another year of this, when I know she gives gifts to her family, I overheard sister in law have a conversation with her brother last year about splitting the cost of a gift for their aunt. I am all for giving kids gifts and would feel so bad for returning anything going to the little girl. So I gave them to my school, going to needy families. The reason I'm so angry is because my brother died and NONE of these in-laws called, sent a card or expressed any condolences to me. I am so good to them!! I'm also really sad about my brother, and am not feeling Christmas. husband is going to be mad for donating the toys, but I bought them, and I want to give them to someone who will appreciate them, a stranger is better then them. They did say no gifts, but they want them and they also know husband is a good person and will do it anyway, hooray for them. Now I am off to the supermarket so I can make the Christmas feast. I am not going to let it bother me, I just had to get it out there. 3 years of kindness going one way is enough, they showed me their true colors and I'll go with that. As soon as I come back from the market I'm opening a bottle of wine. Care to join me?