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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 629918" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>BG---warm hugs for you. I understand. My difficult child was let go from jail last Wednesday night---last thing I thought would happen. I was completely blindsided and pretty much crumbled and cried for the next 18 hours. </p><p></p><p>He is homeless as I would not let him come here. This is his fifth time to be homeless in the last four years. </p><p></p><p>He will be 25 on July 27.</p><p></p><p>I gave him a little money for his RX for depression and a letter I had written and then said, let's not talk until next Thursday (tomorrow). </p><p></p><p>I needed some space from it all to recollect myself. I have gone to an Al-Anon meeting every day since last Thursday.</p><p></p><p>Here is what I would suggest: feel your feelings. Cry, take a nap, lie down, take a walk, write it all down, scrub the kitchen floor---do whatever you have to do for the next little bit.</p><p></p><p>Try (I know it's so very hard, almost impossible) not to rescue him and take care of all of this for him right now. Give it a little time and space if you can.</p><p></p><p>If you just can't, that is okay too. </p><p></p><p>This is a transition, and a possible turning point for you and for him. Maybe, just maybe---both of our difficult children will do something different this time. Just one thing different would create a ripple effect of differences. </p><p></p><p>Private message me any time if you want to talk more. I am here for you. I so understand. Please try to get to an AlAnon meeting---and go to six until you decide if they are right for you or not. </p><p></p><p>Warm hugs. Hang in there. Keep posting.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 629918, member: 17542"] BG---warm hugs for you. I understand. My difficult child was let go from jail last Wednesday night---last thing I thought would happen. I was completely blindsided and pretty much crumbled and cried for the next 18 hours. He is homeless as I would not let him come here. This is his fifth time to be homeless in the last four years. He will be 25 on July 27. I gave him a little money for his RX for depression and a letter I had written and then said, let's not talk until next Thursday (tomorrow). I needed some space from it all to recollect myself. I have gone to an Al-Anon meeting every day since last Thursday. Here is what I would suggest: feel your feelings. Cry, take a nap, lie down, take a walk, write it all down, scrub the kitchen floor---do whatever you have to do for the next little bit. Try (I know it's so very hard, almost impossible) not to rescue him and take care of all of this for him right now. Give it a little time and space if you can. If you just can't, that is okay too. This is a transition, and a possible turning point for you and for him. Maybe, just maybe---both of our difficult children will do something different this time. Just one thing different would create a ripple effect of differences. Private message me any time if you want to talk more. I am here for you. I so understand. Please try to get to an AlAnon meeting---and go to six until you decide if they are right for you or not. Warm hugs. Hang in there. Keep posting. [/QUOTE]
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