i am getting really upset and frustrated. i think my other half is a difficult child and i am at my wits end with him. at this point i wonder what i ever saw in him and i think i may just be banging my head against the wall trying to get him to come around. my first issue with him is that he doesn't have any patience with the kids, especially difficult child who is his son, not mine. i do everything for difficult child because husband's response to everything he does is to either spank him or yell like a maniac. he is like that to the other kids too but a lesser extent. i am tired, nothing i do is ever right. he criticizes my parenting because while i do spend most of my time watching the kids there are times when i let them go play in their rooms together unsupervised and he gets really mad at me for it because they might fight and he thinks i have to have them in my sight 24/7 which is exhausting me. he is also getting mad at me for letting my parents come visit. he doesn't want anyone to come over, ever. we just moved on friday to be closer to my parents. i have told them that they have to call before they come over and that was supposed to make him happy because he doesn't want them dropping by whenever they want but it's not like they are always here and they only stay half an hour. he doesn't want them to touch anything in the house, basically saying if they come here they can only sit on the couch and be quiet(as he expects of the kids, not realistic) i feel like i have to explain everything to him and he still doesn't get it. he can't figure out the simplest tasks like putting dishes away or lighting the bbq. it's frustrating. like he's an extra child, only bigger and ruder. i feel like crying. i just got yelled at and called names because he was napping in the basement and i was trying to find something quiet to do so got the laptop out and sat at the table. he heard me do that and freaked out, accusing me of banging things around and re-arranging the furniture while he's sleeping even though it's obvious that nothing is moved. i am so sad. so worn down. i used to be such a happy go with the flow, free spirited type person and i feel like he is sucking all the fun out of my life. i can't even talk to people without him getting angry at me. he accuses me of flirting with men all the time and calls me a ***** when i am just being polite to people. i don't know what to do. i can't leave, or i won't leave. there must be something else i can do. stop catering to his demands and maybe eventually he will give up on trying to isolate me and make me be someone i'm not?