Hi. I am also new to this site. I have a 16 1/2 boy year old that I have had a complicated life with for 14 years. I am tired of the stealing, laying, etc. He is failling school and ditching now. He basically does what he wants and seems not to have any consequences for his actions. He is on medications. He is on respiradol and wellbutrin. He has the appearance a sweet kid so nobody ever believes he could do that. I have been in the court system where I had a judge tell me he is a "good" kid. Yet he does not have to live with him. I have two younger children I also have to raise. My 11 year old son gets angry because the 16 year causes heart ache in the family. I also have a 4 year old daughter who has a heart condition. When i try to figure out ways to work with the 16 year old. I am the bad guy. The sad thing is the 16 year old has potential to great things and he keeps choosing the wrong things. I have tried charts, I tried talking to the school but they have given up on him. I just don't know what to do with him. I am to the point that I wish we were in pioneer days and I would give him a horse and he can go be a man.