difficult child's 21st birthday is Wednesday. Since we paid her rent and gas bill we told her that was her birthday present. But then of course I felt bad that I had nothing to give her on her birthday so I asked if there was something little that she wanted and she said she would really like to get her hair done. So I got a gift certificate to the beauty shop and she is coming over Wednesday. I'm making her an angel food cake with chocolate frosting and grilling steaks out for dinner. husband wil be here for just a few minutes and then has to leave on a business trip so it will just be difficult child, myself and easy child after she gets home from work. The kids always got lots of cards and some gift certificates for their birthdays but I don't think any of them are going to send anything since they no longer even ask about her. It hurts but there is nothing I can do about that. I don't even think her grandfather is going to acknowledge it. So it will be a bittersweet day but I'm not sure she will even connect the dots to realize this is of her making. I got a call from her today that she could not renew her drivers license because she had an outstanding parking ticket. I was so torn about this but paid it for her online so she could get her license. I am walking a tightrope here between what is enabling and what is helping her get by until her paychecks start coming in. She needs to keep these jobs and she needs her car to get to them. Here's the really sad thing. She made a facebook event for her birthday inviting all her friends to a birthday bash starting at 11pm Tuesday and some local bars near her. She has one person that responded that he is coming, and he is an old drinking friend from our high school that she hasn't even seen in years. Of all the drinking/drugging friends she has not one is helping her celebrate her birthday. She seems to have lost all her drinking friends that she was hanging with over the past several months. None of them talk to her anymore and several have defriended her on fb. I suspect she will be spending her birthday in a bar alone getting drunk and probably picked up by some jerk. Not the way I wanted to celebrate her 21st. I had a very difficult time finding an appropriate birthday card for her and finally found what I think is the perfect sentiment: For a Special Daughter You'll Always Have My Love There are so many gifts I want for you on your birthday... I'd like to give you the gift of wisdom, but that's something only passing years can bring. I'd like to give you the gift of success, but that's something that only has true value if it's earned. I'd like to give you the gift of happiness, but the path that leads you there is one you must find on your own. But there is one gift that I can give you today that will always be with you-- and that's my love.