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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 754456" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>I too wonder the same thing JayPee. My son has done the same thing to me, spew his hate and then demand I help him.</p><p></p><p></p><p>This is the best part of your post!! You have changed, you have made the choice to no longer allow your son to hold your emotions hostage. Sure, it still hurts when our own child treats us with such disdain but we do not have to wallow in it for days on end. The more we work on detaching the easier it gets and the faster we are able to recover from their verbal attacks.</p><p></p><p></p><p>This type of behavior is straight out of the "Adult Difficult Child Handbook" I have lost count of how many times my son has read from that book. </p><p>"if you loved me you would help me", my son has said this to me many times. There were times in the past when I would counter "but I have helped you, and then I would list all the things I've done, all the money I have given, etc....." and his reply would always be the same "why do you have to bring up the past, this is the present and I need help now!!!!" He would then continue on his tirade and start talking in circles.</p><p>There comes a point when we make the choice to no longer allow our adult child to drag us down the rabbit hole.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 754456, member: 18516"] I too wonder the same thing JayPee. My son has done the same thing to me, spew his hate and then demand I help him. This is the best part of your post!! You have changed, you have made the choice to no longer allow your son to hold your emotions hostage. Sure, it still hurts when our own child treats us with such disdain but we do not have to wallow in it for days on end. The more we work on detaching the easier it gets and the faster we are able to recover from their verbal attacks. This type of behavior is straight out of the "Adult Difficult Child Handbook" I have lost count of how many times my son has read from that book. "if you loved me you would help me", my son has said this to me many times. There were times in the past when I would counter "but I have helped you, and then I would list all the things I've done, all the money I have given, etc....." and his reply would always be the same "why do you have to bring up the past, this is the present and I need help now!!!!" He would then continue on his tirade and start talking in circles. There comes a point when we make the choice to no longer allow our adult child to drag us down the rabbit hole. [/QUOTE]
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