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<blockquote data-quote="Marcie Mac" data-source="post: 78120" data-attributes="member: 47"><p>Its amazing how the laws vary from state to state.</p><p></p><p>I have been legally separated going on 14 years. I opted to stay in this no mans land due to Ca divorce laws :smile: A few of my considerations to do this was that the house was in my name - gifted to me during escrow, along with an ok to pay the house payments out of my paycheck which was community property, and I was told the court didn't care - they could make me sell it and give him half the proceeds, or make me pay him half of any house payment that was made on it. </p><p></p><p>And of course, during separation, I DIDN"T have to pay alimony to him - to the tune of 1,550 a month. Yeah, right, the man has an allergic reaction to the word JOB. I just thought I would wait till he got a decent job, then I would file. Am still waiting LOL Its bad enough he gets half my social security since we were married for more than 10 years. Its only this year that he works full time for Goodwill</p><p></p><p>And there was always the plus of having everything frozen, meaning neither one of us could do anything with community property, like empty bank accounts, my 401 K (which is community property but frozen at the amount that was in there 14 years ago - none of my contributions since then are fair game for him. If he went out and started running up bills, I wasn't responsible.</p><p></p><p>I even paid for him to see an attorney of his choice thinking we could do this on an amicable basis. All they sorta suggested is no, she can't have the house, what, she is keeping the Mercedes as well, she needs to be paying you whats rightfully yours, you get half of everything, and she has to pay us to represent you. He became a victim in the lawyers eyes</p><p></p><p>Never mind I gave him the Mercedes ( a real money pit if I have ever seen one), and paid his rent and expenses for two years after he left. He was free to take any contents he wanted. But my anal attitude with the house is that it really belongs to our children. If something happened to me, at least they would have that, cause lord knows they probably would have been living out of the car if left to have him support them.</p><p></p><p>We are on a very friendly basis - He actually stayed here for a few months while waiting to move in with roommates. But he is still very irresponsible - to him its good when he makes enough to pay his 250 a month rent and has money to buy beer and some pot, and will worry about tomorrow when tomorrow comes.</p><p></p><p>When the time comes for me to sell the house, I will give him some money from it, but not half. </p><p></p><p>Marcie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marcie Mac, post: 78120, member: 47"] Its amazing how the laws vary from state to state. I have been legally separated going on 14 years. I opted to stay in this no mans land due to Ca divorce laws [img]:smile:[/img] A few of my considerations to do this was that the house was in my name - gifted to me during escrow, along with an ok to pay the house payments out of my paycheck which was community property, and I was told the court didn't care - they could make me sell it and give him half the proceeds, or make me pay him half of any house payment that was made on it. And of course, during separation, I DIDN"T have to pay alimony to him - to the tune of 1,550 a month. Yeah, right, the man has an allergic reaction to the word JOB. I just thought I would wait till he got a decent job, then I would file. Am still waiting LOL Its bad enough he gets half my social security since we were married for more than 10 years. Its only this year that he works full time for Goodwill And there was always the plus of having everything frozen, meaning neither one of us could do anything with community property, like empty bank accounts, my 401 K (which is community property but frozen at the amount that was in there 14 years ago - none of my contributions since then are fair game for him. If he went out and started running up bills, I wasn't responsible. I even paid for him to see an attorney of his choice thinking we could do this on an amicable basis. All they sorta suggested is no, she can't have the house, what, she is keeping the Mercedes as well, she needs to be paying you whats rightfully yours, you get half of everything, and she has to pay us to represent you. He became a victim in the lawyers eyes Never mind I gave him the Mercedes ( a real money pit if I have ever seen one), and paid his rent and expenses for two years after he left. He was free to take any contents he wanted. But my anal attitude with the house is that it really belongs to our children. If something happened to me, at least they would have that, cause lord knows they probably would have been living out of the car if left to have him support them. We are on a very friendly basis - He actually stayed here for a few months while waiting to move in with roommates. But he is still very irresponsible - to him its good when he makes enough to pay his 250 a month rent and has money to buy beer and some pot, and will worry about tomorrow when tomorrow comes. When the time comes for me to sell the house, I will give him some money from it, but not half. Marcie [/QUOTE]
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