ant has his premliminary hearing tomorrow for his 4th DUI. it has been a very emotional weekend. his dad was to take him to the hearing but told ant no just today. I had already asked for the day off knowing his dad who promised to commute ant would then not do this. it is the 4th county. so a new diff court house, more trauma. thing is, we had a stellar weekend. my big ole family has a three day campout party in the woods reunion. ant and his brother and a lot of my family and their friends go. they have a 100 pd beef roast, bands play, karaoke, dancing and cards, whatever you enjoy it is there. ant has missed the past 4 yrs. so we get there and he finds out perhaps a dozen of the guys and gals from what should have been his high school class were there. lots of them date my family or live locally and were included. ant was nervous as these kids knew his history. amazingly he was welcomed with open arms by the family and these kids. he tented with them for three dys. he ate with them, they laughed, they did karoake, I cried as my older son sang. Nick is a travolta looking kid (picture Travolta as Michael the angel and you have nick) and sings travolta "grease" songs and he was so happy...so was ant. my two sons together, playing, singing with the band, dancing. I had my cellphone taping the singing, the joy. I was over whelmed. as time came to go home, ant cried. these kids surrounded him and wished him well. ant knows what he is missing. these were kids who would not play with him in the day. now they were throwing horsehoes telling jokes, being normal. tomorrow he will go and I am sure his case will be held over for court. UNLESS they put him in jail for parole violation on the spot. I had wanted to not be there, but there is no one to go. ant was the best ant I have ever seen since he was small this weekend. Once more his dad lied and tricked him into thinking he would be there for him. once more I will go and pray as ant is facing the music. asking here for you to be with me in cyber spirit. I hate this, I get claustrophobic in the coutt house, I dont even know the way and will mapquest that now. boyfriend wrote the judge a letter saying ant was a good employee and was needed. I plan on doing nothing but being there.