Now gfgbro is stalking his ex. I cannot fathom what he thnks he will get out of this. Lately Niece has complained that she is lonely at her mom's house because her mom spends all her time on the phone or computer with her boyfriends. Exsil has either 4 or 5 boyfriends in addition to the man she is engaged to. Lots of the computer stuff is skyping porn and niece has to stay in her room (has tv, dvd player, etc... and often is sent there with a quart of ice cream for a 'little snack'. Or a bag of cookies. or both. Niece has a cell phone. exsil got it so niece couldn't be told she wasn't allowed to use the phone when she is with gfgbro or my folks. The only times they wont let her use the phone to call her mom is after 9 or before 7 because her mom rages if she gets calls then. Gfgbro hasn't been able to reach niece to say goodnight on quite a few nights. Even after he bought minutes for niece's phone. Exsil won't answer call waiting even on niece's phone. So he started driving over to say goodnight. The bedtime phone calls are not new, they have done them since they first split up. The 2nd or 3rd time he drove over to say goodnight, he saw exsil's vehicle leaving. He followed her. She went to a convenience store and spent an HOUR there. NOT interviewing for a job, not by a long shot. He waited outside for an entire hour, then followed her home. He called when she was driving (they BOTH use cell phones while driving even though they have each had at least one accident because they were using their phones while driving, grrrrrrr) and she said that niece was in bed already and was asleep. I can see going over to spend the night. I can sort of see following to see where she was going, maybe. But waiting an hour and not saying anything, just lurking and then following her home? in my opinion he is going to get arrested if he doesn't stop. Stalking is a crime. Plus he is going to end up going bonkers with rage if she keeps doing this. Even worse, he put niece totally in the middle. Poor kid doesn't know WHAT to do. He confronted NIECE about where she was that night. Then told her he knew she wasn't in bed because he was behind them in the car, and that he knew they were at the convenience store for an hour, and asked her what exsil was doing there. He told niece not to lie about this to him ever again. Poor kid's mom is telling her to lie and likely telling her that Daddy will get mad and hurt Mommy if niece tells the truth. Then her dad is telling her that she is not to lie to him and that SHE will be in trouble if she lies to him about what her mom is doing. So what is niece to do???? The only thing she can do - CRY. I sooooooo do NOT want to deal with this. I let my mom talk about it because she seems to need to talk. I don't say much about it, but I know she cannot really vent to my dad because he already hates exsil and he often just cannot listen with-o going nuts. I have urged my mom to discuss gfgbro's behavior with the lawyer so that she can maybe help hm avoid stalking charges. Any future custody iissues will NOT be helped if gfgbro has stalking charges or even if he isn't charged but exsil has proof that he is following her. I am now even more afraid of him. Hopefully having school start for both Niece and gfgbro, and all this drama with exsil, will keep gfgbro too busy to bother us!