I'm not going to get into all the details, because it would probably take a 4 page letter, but I resolved a few things over the passed few days with s2bx that I needed to in order to move on. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders and I really can move on with my life, no questions, no guilt, just be me and move on. The short version is that I took the opportunity to let him know how totally disrespectful he has handled the end of a 30 year relationship and how it not only effected me, but his children and everyone else he has involved. This started very negative and after two days of throwing blame and digging up some very hurtful things, it ended with an understanding of mutual respect between two people who have spent many many many years together and who still need to be involved somewhat in each others lives for the sake of our children. Another thing that came out of this is that we were able to agree that it's a waste of time to try and figure out why and who's fault it is that we were no longer happy, but that we both over the years changed and grew, but obviously not together, and that it would be totally unfair of either one of us to believe it was solely the other persons fault. He even admitted in the end that he introduced his girlfriend to our kids too soon. That is one of his biggest problems though. He figured that out a little too late. It wasn't until he saw how uncomfortable they were with it that he realized he was wrong. I'm not saying I'm forgiving him for any of the dirty rotten nasty stuff he has done, but I feel we have come to an agreement that will be beneficial to all, especially our children. I feel Good!!!!