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<blockquote data-quote="It's in His hands" data-source="post: 649479" data-attributes="member: 18806"><p>Thank you everyone for your support. I'd like to address some of the questions...</p><p></p><p>"Do they pay you any rent? Do you have to 100% support them?"</p><p></p><p>They pay us $500 a month for rent and they pay the utilities, though they are in our name. We stopped all financial help when, after we repaired and gave them one of our cars last October(we only had 2), I found out my son was driving stoned with the baby in the car. This, according to him, was a regular thing. He totaled the car a month ago.</p><p></p><p>"Do you have a lease signed by either one of them? Does the lease have any mention of "no drugs"?"</p><p></p><p>Their lease was up at the end of last month and they haven't signed a new one. I don't know if the lease mentions drugs, but it was after my husband told them no more drugs or paraphernalia in the house that they stopped allowing us to have or see the baby. </p><p></p><p>Cameras are a good idea but I don't think we'll use them. </p><p></p><p>Asking the neighbors to keep an eye out won't work. They live next door to a family member who doesn't care for me (she's also an alcoholic and on Rx pain pills) and she's already been publicly supporting them on FB, going on about what great parents they are and how much they love the baby. She's their new babysitter... Yet another bad choice. There's no doubt in my mind they love him, it's evident. However it is a selfish love. Their drugs come first.</p><p>Also, everyone on their block (only 3 houses and their's is a duplex) is a drug user.</p><p></p><p>As for the religious stuff and ISIS comments, they are deep into alternative news. For them to even suggest that our military is sending soldiers to Africa to kill the black ppl and get diamonds, that Ebola doesn't exist and is being used as a way to kill ppl in Africa, is ludicrous. The two of them love trying to get me worked up over stuff, but most of the time I blow it off, like when the girlfriend told me she was going to school to become a Wiccan priestess, lol. Most of the time I'm like, whatever. The girlfriend posts a lot of pro drug and insulting atheist stuff on FB. When I'd had enough I took her off my newsfeed. What I don't understand is why they tell me (written and spoken) about their drug use, alcohol use, neglect etc. Who tells the grandma she won't take the baby to a mommy and me class because she's afraid someone will call dcf due to drug and alcohol use, and that if dcf came out she knows they'd take him? We even had it set up while she was pregnant that if he were removed from them he would come to our home. Who makes plans for when their baby is taken by child services? Addicts do. When they're around I feel like I'm in crazy town!</p><p></p><p>Thank you for letting me rant on here and for all of your support. When you're around people who are familiar with this, who have experienced it, it's not only a comfort but a reminder that I'm not losing my mind. </p><p></p><p>You all are in my prayers and though I'm glad you're here, I'm sorry you're here. I'm sorry we're all here.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="It's in His hands, post: 649479, member: 18806"] Thank you everyone for your support. I'd like to address some of the questions... "Do they pay you any rent? Do you have to 100% support them?" They pay us $500 a month for rent and they pay the utilities, though they are in our name. We stopped all financial help when, after we repaired and gave them one of our cars last October(we only had 2), I found out my son was driving stoned with the baby in the car. This, according to him, was a regular thing. He totaled the car a month ago. "Do you have a lease signed by either one of them? Does the lease have any mention of "no drugs"?" Their lease was up at the end of last month and they haven't signed a new one. I don't know if the lease mentions drugs, but it was after my husband told them no more drugs or paraphernalia in the house that they stopped allowing us to have or see the baby. Cameras are a good idea but I don't think we'll use them. Asking the neighbors to keep an eye out won't work. They live next door to a family member who doesn't care for me (she's also an alcoholic and on Rx pain pills) and she's already been publicly supporting them on FB, going on about what great parents they are and how much they love the baby. She's their new babysitter... Yet another bad choice. There's no doubt in my mind they love him, it's evident. However it is a selfish love. Their drugs come first. Also, everyone on their block (only 3 houses and their's is a duplex) is a drug user. As for the religious stuff and ISIS comments, they are deep into alternative news. For them to even suggest that our military is sending soldiers to Africa to kill the black ppl and get diamonds, that Ebola doesn't exist and is being used as a way to kill ppl in Africa, is ludicrous. The two of them love trying to get me worked up over stuff, but most of the time I blow it off, like when the girlfriend told me she was going to school to become a Wiccan priestess, lol. Most of the time I'm like, whatever. The girlfriend posts a lot of pro drug and insulting atheist stuff on FB. When I'd had enough I took her off my newsfeed. What I don't understand is why they tell me (written and spoken) about their drug use, alcohol use, neglect etc. Who tells the grandma she won't take the baby to a mommy and me class because she's afraid someone will call dcf due to drug and alcohol use, and that if dcf came out she knows they'd take him? We even had it set up while she was pregnant that if he were removed from them he would come to our home. Who makes plans for when their baby is taken by child services? Addicts do. When they're around I feel like I'm in crazy town! Thank you for letting me rant on here and for all of your support. When you're around people who are familiar with this, who have experienced it, it's not only a comfort but a reminder that I'm not losing my mind. You all are in my prayers and though I'm glad you're here, I'm sorry you're here. I'm sorry we're all here. [/QUOTE]
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