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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 713362" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Exhaustedmommy, welcome. I am so sorry you have so much on your plate. It really does sound like too much. I think I know a little bit of how you must feel. I only had one child, but I was a single mom. I thought I would go nuts when I felt confined. In fact I put my son in daycare because I could not stand being isolated in the house just the two of us. I needed help and I needed support. When there is nothing left to give this is a reality that must be faced.</p><p></p><p>I believe you need respite and support for this situation to get better. Do you have time to yourself each day? If not, is there a way you can gain the help of a relative or a friend to give you some time to yourself?</p><p></p><p>You seem exhausted and depleted. Nothing can change from this state of affairs. Like a car will not move without gas and a dead battery, people do not function either. You need fuel. You need care. First and foremost from yourself. You are worth your own care. The kids must sense what is going on. This must make them anxious. It is not your fault. Nor is it theirs. It is like all of this energy is bouncing off the walls and everybody is going off the deep end.</p><p></p><p>It sounds like there is a lot of misery right now and that you are not alone with it. Where does your husband stand in this? He created these kids too. Is he aware of your sadness and sense of desperation and overwhelm? Will he partner with you to move beyond this? Have you spoken with him?</p><p></p><p>I am glad you posted and glad you are here. Many of us will understand the position you find yourself in and there will be lots of support and counsel to help you through this. Tonight is a slow night, due to the weekend and the fact it is summertime almost. And many are already in bed. By tomorrow morning there should be other responses.</p><p></p><p>For right now, try to concentrate on soothing yourself and pampering yourself in small ways. A bath. A good book. There will be many other small ways that you can be good to yourself throughout the day. It is only to begin to identify them and practice them. For right now, know that you are not alone. Take care. None of this is your fault.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 713362, member: 18958"] Exhaustedmommy, welcome. I am so sorry you have so much on your plate. It really does sound like too much. I think I know a little bit of how you must feel. I only had one child, but I was a single mom. I thought I would go nuts when I felt confined. In fact I put my son in daycare because I could not stand being isolated in the house just the two of us. I needed help and I needed support. When there is nothing left to give this is a reality that must be faced. I believe you need respite and support for this situation to get better. Do you have time to yourself each day? If not, is there a way you can gain the help of a relative or a friend to give you some time to yourself? You seem exhausted and depleted. Nothing can change from this state of affairs. Like a car will not move without gas and a dead battery, people do not function either. You need fuel. You need care. First and foremost from yourself. You are worth your own care. The kids must sense what is going on. This must make them anxious. It is not your fault. Nor is it theirs. It is like all of this energy is bouncing off the walls and everybody is going off the deep end. It sounds like there is a lot of misery right now and that you are not alone with it. Where does your husband stand in this? He created these kids too. Is he aware of your sadness and sense of desperation and overwhelm? Will he partner with you to move beyond this? Have you spoken with him? I am glad you posted and glad you are here. Many of us will understand the position you find yourself in and there will be lots of support and counsel to help you through this. Tonight is a slow night, due to the weekend and the fact it is summertime almost. And many are already in bed. By tomorrow morning there should be other responses. For right now, try to concentrate on soothing yourself and pampering yourself in small ways. A bath. A good book. There will be many other small ways that you can be good to yourself throughout the day. It is only to begin to identify them and practice them. For right now, know that you are not alone. Take care. None of this is your fault. [/QUOTE]
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