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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 752427" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p style="text-align: left"><span style="color: rgb(20, 20, 20)">I will only speak from my own experience which of course is limited. </span></p><p></p><p>Only up to a point can he refuse treatment. First, he is a minor, and therefore you hold a large part of the control and responsibility for his care. Second, if somebody is a danger to self or others, they lose the ability to say no to treatment. Adults can be forcibly treated. And so can children and teens. </p><p></p><p>If somebody is violent, there are injections, for example that act to decrease this.</p><p>I mean, this. When such a thing happens it is essential to involve psychiatric emergency services and/or the police. This is for your own, the community's and your son's best interests. When he turns 18 you will lose a lot of control. The more interventions (including legal) that can happen now, the more it benefits your son. </p><p></p><p>Yes. He benefits from interventions. The reality of his life is that he is out of control. The more he comes up against consequences the better.</p><p></p><p>You have no control over the course of his future life. That is really not your concern right now. As I see it your concern is this dynamic of abuser/abused that you live with. I would contact a domestic violence program. I would also start calling the police every.single.time he threatens you.</p><p></p><p>With the domestic violence program I would set up a plan, including your leaving the household. I do not understand why your husband is not involved with you to confront and deal with this extreme problem. Does your son threaten and abuse his siblings? (I also would suggest you begin to attend Al Anon which is a program for family members of alcoholics and addicts but most meetings are open to everybody. This program will help you to learn to set boundaries and to act from a place of self-care.)</p><p></p><p>If you were to involve the legal system there would be, I think, the possibility of residential treatment, which could benefit your son. (School should pay part of this.) </p><p></p><p>I think part of the problem is that your son seems not to have experienced consequences for his behavior. This is good for NOBODY.</p><p></p><p>I am glad you found us. Welcome. I hope you keep posting. It helps.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 752427, member: 18958"] [LEFT][COLOR=rgb(20, 20, 20)]I will only speak from my own experience which of course is limited. [/COLOR][/LEFT] Only up to a point can he refuse treatment. First, he is a minor, and therefore you hold a large part of the control and responsibility for his care. Second, if somebody is a danger to self or others, they lose the ability to say no to treatment. Adults can be forcibly treated. And so can children and teens. If somebody is violent, there are injections, for example that act to decrease this. I mean, this. When such a thing happens it is essential to involve psychiatric emergency services and/or the police. This is for your own, the community's and your son's best interests. When he turns 18 you will lose a lot of control. The more interventions (including legal) that can happen now, the more it benefits your son. Yes. He benefits from interventions. The reality of his life is that he is out of control. The more he comes up against consequences the better. You have no control over the course of his future life. That is really not your concern right now. As I see it your concern is this dynamic of abuser/abused that you live with. I would contact a domestic violence program. I would also start calling the police every.single.time he threatens you. With the domestic violence program I would set up a plan, including your leaving the household. I do not understand why your husband is not involved with you to confront and deal with this extreme problem. Does your son threaten and abuse his siblings? (I also would suggest you begin to attend Al Anon which is a program for family members of alcoholics and addicts but most meetings are open to everybody. This program will help you to learn to set boundaries and to act from a place of self-care.) If you were to involve the legal system there would be, I think, the possibility of residential treatment, which could benefit your son. (School should pay part of this.) I think part of the problem is that your son seems not to have experienced consequences for his behavior. This is good for NOBODY. I am glad you found us. Welcome. I hope you keep posting. It helps. [/QUOTE]
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