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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 649580" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Tanya, </p><p></p><p></p><p>It really does suck to go through it. I'm really sorry.</p><p></p><p>My daughter is homeless too. She occasionally 'disappears' too. I know what you're talking about, firsthand. As with you, she is my only child. </p><p></p><p>There is never a question of our love for them, that is always intact......I think it's our inability to inhabit the same world they inhabit........and that inability leaves us out.... out in the cold......not knowing........ in dramatic uncertainty.... the chaos and messiness that COM talks about, only the intense version, not the ordinary life chaos and messiness, the <em>super sized one. </em></p><p></p><p>It's as if we have to continue to expand our parameters of our ability to live within this ever widening circle of uncertainty. Perhaps this is true for you too, each time I expand in that way, afterwards there seems to be a little more peace, a little more of a sense of calm, a deeper understanding of acceptance. However, right before that, I am breathing my way through the next level of letting go........it sucks and it hurts. And, then I adapt to it. And, it's okay. The expansion worked. </p><p></p><p>You'll move through this hurt, this not knowing......and you'll adapt and be back to your detached self once again.......in a day, or two.......you have much healing under your belt, this is a temporary and likely short lived bout with the old insanity. Tomorrow is a new day.......</p><p></p><p>In the meantime, you're not alone, we've all been there........ and will likely be there again.......but each time, it is a shorter visit........and then, thankfully, peace will welcome you back.....welcome you back.....home.</p><p></p><p>Hugs to you Tanya.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 649580, member: 13542"] Tanya, It really does suck to go through it. I'm really sorry. My daughter is homeless too. She occasionally 'disappears' too. I know what you're talking about, firsthand. As with you, she is my only child. There is never a question of our love for them, that is always intact......I think it's our inability to inhabit the same world they inhabit........and that inability leaves us out.... out in the cold......not knowing........ in dramatic uncertainty.... the chaos and messiness that COM talks about, only the intense version, not the ordinary life chaos and messiness, the [I]super sized one. [/I] It's as if we have to continue to expand our parameters of our ability to live within this ever widening circle of uncertainty. Perhaps this is true for you too, each time I expand in that way, afterwards there seems to be a little more peace, a little more of a sense of calm, a deeper understanding of acceptance. However, right before that, I am breathing my way through the next level of letting go........it sucks and it hurts. And, then I adapt to it. And, it's okay. The expansion worked. You'll move through this hurt, this not knowing......and you'll adapt and be back to your detached self once again.......in a day, or two.......you have much healing under your belt, this is a temporary and likely short lived bout with the old insanity. Tomorrow is a new day....... In the meantime, you're not alone, we've all been there........ and will likely be there again.......but each time, it is a shorter visit........and then, thankfully, peace will welcome you back.....welcome you back.....home. Hugs to you Tanya. [/QUOTE]
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