Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Off the grid again
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 649731" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>I know 99% of the time that things with my son are not going to change but I hold onto that 1% of hope that he will. While I do allow myself to hold onto that little bit of hope I am realistic enough to know that it may never happen and when I have an encounter with him I do it with my eyes wide open. His cruelness used to cut me deep, now it's more like a paper cut, it only stings for a little bit.</p><p></p><p>I'm glad that I chatted with him even if it was brief and without any real substance. I'm glad I reiterated to him all that I and husband have done for him. I'm glad that I recognized the conversation on his end was quickly slipping into the old pattern and withdrew myself from it while ending it with letting him know he is loved. I'm glad he responded with telling me he loved me and husband.</p><p></p><p>So very true!! They want us to feel sorry for them and they are counting on "guilt" to kick in and take over our logical thinking so they can manipulate us. I can only imagine how frustrating it must be for him when he realizes that he can't play me.</p><p></p><p>Absolutely, along with pointless. It is just so sad that they are living their lives with no direction or meaning as I see it. I'm sure in their eyes there is meaning. MWM had posted something about how there are 80 year old parents still enabling their 60 year old Difficult Child. I just cannot imaging being in the fall or winter of ones life and looking back only to find emptiness, that is senseless.</p><p></p><p>Yes, there is a deeper understanding of acceptance for sure and the peace that comes with it. I cherish this as I remember all to well the feelings of helplessness, terror and utter chaos. I've come a long way since those days and am grateful for the inner strength that at one time I did not know I possessed. I am grateful for this forum, to have fellowship with others who know what I'm feeling and that offer feedback and support.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 649731, member: 18516"] I know 99% of the time that things with my son are not going to change but I hold onto that 1% of hope that he will. While I do allow myself to hold onto that little bit of hope I am realistic enough to know that it may never happen and when I have an encounter with him I do it with my eyes wide open. His cruelness used to cut me deep, now it's more like a paper cut, it only stings for a little bit. I'm glad that I chatted with him even if it was brief and without any real substance. I'm glad I reiterated to him all that I and husband have done for him. I'm glad that I recognized the conversation on his end was quickly slipping into the old pattern and withdrew myself from it while ending it with letting him know he is loved. I'm glad he responded with telling me he loved me and husband. So very true!! They want us to feel sorry for them and they are counting on "guilt" to kick in and take over our logical thinking so they can manipulate us. I can only imagine how frustrating it must be for him when he realizes that he can't play me. Absolutely, along with pointless. It is just so sad that they are living their lives with no direction or meaning as I see it. I'm sure in their eyes there is meaning. MWM had posted something about how there are 80 year old parents still enabling their 60 year old Difficult Child. I just cannot imaging being in the fall or winter of ones life and looking back only to find emptiness, that is senseless. Yes, there is a deeper understanding of acceptance for sure and the peace that comes with it. I cherish this as I remember all to well the feelings of helplessness, terror and utter chaos. I've come a long way since those days and am grateful for the inner strength that at one time I did not know I possessed. I am grateful for this forum, to have fellowship with others who know what I'm feeling and that offer feedback and support. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Off the grid again
Top