Here goes, I can never share this info with anyone in real life. In May my brother in law, husband's brother, called us and wanted to meet for dinner. His wife was somewhere and a friend of theirs was babysitting the 4 year old. He was going to pick up the 4 year old and come over, he was nearby. husband and I got ready to go out. A long tome passed, he never showed so we ate at home. 2 hours after the phone call he showed up (we kept calling him, but he didn't answer) and we went out , just for a drink, we had eaten. We love our niece and wanted to see her, brother in law can eat, we'll have a drink. So that happened. At the restaurant brother in law drank one drink and was TOTALLY drunk. We realized that for the 2 hours he was at a bar and drinking. That one drink we had together put him over the edge. husband and I were worried, how was he going to drive home with niece? OMG also, someone is babysitting your child while you are at a bar? He is 50 and has a 24 year old and a 4 year old. Now, during the meal brother in law kept saying to me how I was the most beautiful woman he ever met, and will I marry him. Strange because those of you who know me on facebook, I'm the biggest tomboy ever. I do always wear lots of make-up and nails are done. But, not beautiful, right? Ok it's weird and husband is mad as heck. (In high school brother in law took husband's girlfriend away for a weekend suddenly...husband will never forgive brother in law for this) I know he is drunk and kidding. So, husband and I were secretly communicating should we keep niece and tell him to get his wife ( a barmaid who had cancer and needed to get married quick because she had cancer and didn't have benefits and brother in law did her A FAVOR and married her so she can have cancer treatments ONLY then wanted to divorce her but she got pregnant) to pick her up. This is the moment that we regret forever and ever. We did nothing. Then as we were getting into the car and saying goodbye, my drunk brother in law put his hand DOWN THERE on me. I got in the car and told husband right away. 2 seconds after saying goodbye, brother in law called husband's phone, we were still in the parking lot and I already told husband this. He was only calling to see if husband knew what brother in law had done (we feel). husband knew alright. But he said he is finished with this guy, brother or not. He was being so inappropriate all evening regardless. Now difficult child is getting married and we didn't invite them to the wedding. We also agreed that it would embarrass us and brother in law to announce all this to all. brother in law would deny it and we would look like jerks so that was it. husband never accepted brother in law's numerous calls since the or anything. Now difficult child is having a wedding. We didn't invite brother in law and sister in law, 24 year old was given an oral invite from difficult child (he's not coming because his dad isn't invited) sister in law called here ranting and raving how she hates us all and how dare we...she has no clue about her drunken husband. She said horrible things on the message...HORRIBLE. She called father in law and said all this awful stuff about us to husband's own dad. (Hello barmaid? That is his dad!) OK. I wanted to ask your advice because I wanted to tell her what happened. I have to. As I am typing all this she called and I told her. I already had 2 glasses of wine (don't judge me please, it's Saturday) and I was very calm and explained all this to her. Now she knows the truth. She is very understanding. She agreed we should have taken the child and she got off the phone to process this. Now husband had to tell his dad and told him this whole truth so now he knows. difficult child and my easy child kids have no idea why we are mad at uncle. He just trusts us. Well, I finally got all that off my chest. Thanks for listening. My father in law will probably hate me and think I made it up....this is why we didn't want anyone to know. I really love father in law but he loves his brother in law more so he won't believe it. Who would make this up? I just had to tell someone.