Last year I asked you tips for perfect murder of my mother in law because she decided to ban my difficult child from Mother's Day activities while expecting that husband, I and easy child would attend. She was however left alive because I had a stain in my funeral attire that didn't come off and shops have such a lousy selection of black at springs. And she back-pedalled from not wanting difficult child to attend. So I decided to postpone my murderous plans till fall. Some how I never did get to it during the fall (murdering mother in law, I mean, I did buy new funeral clothes) and so we are here. Mother's Day is coming and mother in law is creating drama. This time an only casualty may be I. It's very possible I may laugh myself to early grave. Apparently things have been too quiet for mother in law for some time because she is back to banning business. This time she is banning one of her daughters. Okay, that is not funny and I do feel bad for my sister in law who has never been her mother's favourite. But the reason for the ban is really out of there even for mother in law. It's because of a corp. Field mustard to be specific. We and in-laws live middle of fields of old family farm. This sister in law continues the farming with her SO. When they took on farming they went organic. In organic farming rotation of corps is really important and of course you also farm what sells. This year, for fields surrounding our houses the choice is field mustard. Okay, I admit that when I heard that, my first thought was "Oh darn!" too. I'm first to admit I prefer wheat or rye next to our yard. But mother in law is taking it as personal, mortal insult. And now sister in law is ruining mother in law's garden parties through summer, making mother in law's social life impossible and what not, because she chose such an ugly and smelly plant to our 'home fields.' And because mother in law is mother in law it is not only a ban from Mother's Day brunch. She forbid father in law from helping sister in law with spring work. father in law pretends deaf (and hasn't got a smallest intention to obey.) So now mother in law is playing a martyr and involving us. She is going on and on how unfair father in law is by helping his favourite daughter and leaving their poor first born son (husband) in plight with kitchen reno. The testament to how powerful childhood roles can be is that my husband actually listened his mother till he explained it to me and saw how I react. First of all. father in law has worked with our kitchen reno 7 weeks now. When spring work will really start it will be almost done. Rest is work for pros or easy things I and husband will manage ourselves. father in law is tirelessly helpful to all his children. Yes, he and this sister in law may have most in common but unlike mother in law (whose golden boy my husband is), father in law doesn't keep favourites. Not much at least. And father in law farmed those fields for 40 years and was agriculture professor for a day job. Of course he is interested helping sister in law with farming. And in no shape or form are we getting a short stick in this. Luckily husband and his siblings are close bunch and mother in law's dramas never make too big wedges between them. And even more lucky is that sister in law is too busy and too used to her mother's fits to really care.