husband is fuming in the livingroom. About 2 wks ago we went to see mother in law. She, as she always does, gave us a list of things she needs/wants. husband promised her at that time to bring it to her the next day. After we had much issue getting her to understand that we no longer have control over her money.......and with husband out of work, we honestly don't have the cash to buy the stuff and bring it to her. husband had tried to tell her he'd tell his bro's wife and see what could be arranged. Soooooooo. Of course husband did squat. Although bro's wife did call a few days ago and they spoke about it. He did NOT go back to see his mom. mother in law called tonight upset. (don't blame her) Seems some of the stuff she really needed/wanted and now her underwear has gone missing from the laundry. husband tried to explain he'd spoken with bro's wife and she was supposed to be sending the stuff mother in law needs to the nursing home. (cuz she has control over the money) I guess it didn't go well cuz he told her he'd get the stuff tomorrow and bring it to her. I don't know how he thinks he's gonna do that. Since the only cash we have is from my fasfa rebate........and sorry, that's gas money for school and a video card for my computer. I didn't get hardly anything back this time cuz I was just part time. mother in law just called. She wanted those underwear tonight! husband said fine (sort of growled after she wouldn't accept 9:30pm is a tad late to go underwear shopping) then evidently mother in law got mega mad at him. And me?? I'm staying OUT of it. I do not have the time to coddle mother in law or heck even to visit her on a reg basis. I barely have time to get food into the house for husband and I, let alone do extra shopping for her. husband is the one who promised he'd get the stuff and didn't. husband is the one who won't visit her without me. When I told him that quite honestly I don't have 2-3 hrs to waste sitting with mother in law when my nose needs to be in a book. I go when I can, which isn't often. Yes, I feel bad about that, but I also can't help it. And the following quarters are only going to be worse. And somehow.......it got to be MY fault he didn't by those things for his Mom out of the unemployment check......um sorry we needed food and to pay bills, bud.......and that now he's catching hades for it. This whole bro's wife handling the money thing is not gonna work well. Not that I want the job. Had it and hated it. But her attitude well if you just pick it up for her and we'll send you the money when you send the reciepts isnt' gonna cut it. husband is unemployed. Duh. We don't have the cash to begin with! ugh I sometimes really hate dealing with people who have never spent a moment in their lives poor. Oh well. husband's problem. Somehow he's just going to have to make his Mom understand we can't just run out to the store for her anymore. Stinks, but that's the way it is. sigh.