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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 667644" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>I have to say, the knowledge that you all have kids who have trodden the exact same path is somehow reassuring. It seems like a behavior pattern, which oddly helps me feel settled...something about the idea that it is just random crazy bad judgement bothers me more than the idea that "this is a thing that these troubled people do."</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Thank you for sharing this with me. I'm sorry this happened to you...but the knowledge that this is a shared experience helped settle me down last night.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes. It is sad that he is afraid to reach out to me. Its sad to want something that is out of your reach...in this case my approval. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes, labelling emotions is a good idea...just my anxiety. my panic. my sorry. I"m not really falling, it is just a feeling of falling. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>And..this was my mantra last night. Try not to write the end of the story. At least one of my younger kids and probably both are having some issues that are scaring me, one is boundary-pushing and one is school-failing...all these things add to my panic. The clarity of "don't write the end of the story" for all three of my boys helped keep me sane last night. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I will try this. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>When I woke up in the middle of the night I pictured an image of a Buddha I once saw in China, eyes closed, lying on his side, resting. That helped me go back to sleep. Thank you. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>What a good and novel idea! This is a little brain bending for me, but I'm going to work on it. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Haha. Yes, I do make all these prayers. Right now...mostly "help!" but even now even now...this morning I saw that a flowering tree on my roofdeck, which I thought had died in the rough winter we had (roots in a pot on a roofdeck is hard on trees) has actually come back to life...and in its confusion after a long sleep, is flowing an exuberant pink flower. Thanks!</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes, that is part of his sentence. And his first court hearing is scheduled for tomorrow. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>The crowd support of "this has happend more than once to SEVERAL of our sons..." has been really helpful. Thank you for letting me know. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>How crushing. Fourteen months in. But it helps to have company in this strangely similar story. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Exactly! Looks like a meme!</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>This was also very calming. This too shall play itself out. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Haha. My family is messy right now! In the normal way of families, but still...</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>And yes, this is a good touchstone. I have to accept that he has already decided. Very very good point. He has already decided. There is no role for me here. In fact, he hasn't even reached out to me..he only told a passing acquaintance that he sort of kind of wants to ...</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Part of his sentencing was to participate successfully in this program...with that came an expungement of his felony record. Not fulfilling his part means that when he is (inevitably) arrested again, they will prosecute the felony, and the DA won't be feeling so generous this time. And who can blame him. </p><p></p><p>But I"m not writing the end of the story today!</p><p></p><p>This was great and exactly what I needed. Don't write the end of the story. He has decided. I am not alone. </p><p></p><p>Hugs to all of us who hold our heads up and keep moving.</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 667644, member: 17269"] I have to say, the knowledge that you all have kids who have trodden the exact same path is somehow reassuring. It seems like a behavior pattern, which oddly helps me feel settled...something about the idea that it is just random crazy bad judgement bothers me more than the idea that "this is a thing that these troubled people do." Thank you for sharing this with me. I'm sorry this happened to you...but the knowledge that this is a shared experience helped settle me down last night. Yes. It is sad that he is afraid to reach out to me. Its sad to want something that is out of your reach...in this case my approval. Yes, labelling emotions is a good idea...just my anxiety. my panic. my sorry. I"m not really falling, it is just a feeling of falling. And..this was my mantra last night. Try not to write the end of the story. At least one of my younger kids and probably both are having some issues that are scaring me, one is boundary-pushing and one is school-failing...all these things add to my panic. The clarity of "don't write the end of the story" for all three of my boys helped keep me sane last night. I will try this. When I woke up in the middle of the night I pictured an image of a Buddha I once saw in China, eyes closed, lying on his side, resting. That helped me go back to sleep. Thank you. What a good and novel idea! This is a little brain bending for me, but I'm going to work on it. Haha. Yes, I do make all these prayers. Right now...mostly "help!" but even now even now...this morning I saw that a flowering tree on my roofdeck, which I thought had died in the rough winter we had (roots in a pot on a roofdeck is hard on trees) has actually come back to life...and in its confusion after a long sleep, is flowing an exuberant pink flower. Thanks! Yes, that is part of his sentence. And his first court hearing is scheduled for tomorrow. The crowd support of "this has happend more than once to SEVERAL of our sons..." has been really helpful. Thank you for letting me know. How crushing. Fourteen months in. But it helps to have company in this strangely similar story. Exactly! Looks like a meme! This was also very calming. This too shall play itself out. Haha. My family is messy right now! In the normal way of families, but still... And yes, this is a good touchstone. I have to accept that he has already decided. Very very good point. He has already decided. There is no role for me here. In fact, he hasn't even reached out to me..he only told a passing acquaintance that he sort of kind of wants to ... Part of his sentencing was to participate successfully in this program...with that came an expungement of his felony record. Not fulfilling his part means that when he is (inevitably) arrested again, they will prosecute the felony, and the DA won't be feeling so generous this time. And who can blame him. But I"m not writing the end of the story today! This was great and exactly what I needed. Don't write the end of the story. He has decided. I am not alone. Hugs to all of us who hold our heads up and keep moving. Echo [/QUOTE]
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