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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 667658" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Oh Echo I am coming late to this...I read your post yesterday but didn't have time to respond thoughtfully. I was so hopeful for him!! </p><p></p><p>The time in jail...to calm down...3 squares and a bed, as we say, drug free, the system finally actually working...I think that is so hard...when it all comes together. And then the fall is so much further for us. For you. I am so sorry. </p><p></p><p>But...as several have said...don't write the end of the story today.</p><p></p><p>The lure of the street still calls to him, clearly. Once he has choices...outside of jail...he chooses what he has come to know instead of what he doesn't yet know. </p><p></p><p>He is going to do what he is going to do...we know that. You know that. I would think he hasn't called because he knows how disappointed and wrong you will think this is, of course he knows that. </p><p></p><p>I just hoped and prayed and thought that THIS was going to be his turnaround time. Just goes to show that we aren't in charge of this and him and how the world turns. He has been offered a very good deal and he chooses not to take it at least this time. He's not ready yet.</p><p></p><p>I just hate that, though, especially for your hurting heart. I do believe, like others here, that this is a defined pattern of behavior, not just him choosing to be aberrant, but it's the way...until one day it isn't. And that isn't on our timeline so sadly.</p><p></p><p>Echo you know so much already about acceptance...lean into that and refresh yourself in the principles of living with incredible, unbelievable uncertainty. That is the task for all of us...every single one of us.</p><p></p><p>There is no reasoning this out. It is way outside the bounds of logic as we know it. It isn't logical. It is a person doing what they want to do, for whatever reason. Responding to the siren call. I don't pretend to understand how that can be better than this life most of the rest of us lead but my son chose it too, for a long time. The drugs were paramount. Until one day they weren't. </p><p></p><p>I am hoping for his safety and for you to find some peace and comfort. We are here for you. </p><p></p><p>Warm hugs for your heart and his. I am so sorry it had happened.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 667658, member: 17542"] Oh Echo I am coming late to this...I read your post yesterday but didn't have time to respond thoughtfully. I was so hopeful for him!! The time in jail...to calm down...3 squares and a bed, as we say, drug free, the system finally actually working...I think that is so hard...when it all comes together. And then the fall is so much further for us. For you. I am so sorry. But...as several have said...don't write the end of the story today. The lure of the street still calls to him, clearly. Once he has choices...outside of jail...he chooses what he has come to know instead of what he doesn't yet know. He is going to do what he is going to do...we know that. You know that. I would think he hasn't called because he knows how disappointed and wrong you will think this is, of course he knows that. I just hoped and prayed and thought that THIS was going to be his turnaround time. Just goes to show that we aren't in charge of this and him and how the world turns. He has been offered a very good deal and he chooses not to take it at least this time. He's not ready yet. I just hate that, though, especially for your hurting heart. I do believe, like others here, that this is a defined pattern of behavior, not just him choosing to be aberrant, but it's the way...until one day it isn't. And that isn't on our timeline so sadly. Echo you know so much already about acceptance...lean into that and refresh yourself in the principles of living with incredible, unbelievable uncertainty. That is the task for all of us...every single one of us. There is no reasoning this out. It is way outside the bounds of logic as we know it. It isn't logical. It is a person doing what they want to do, for whatever reason. Responding to the siren call. I don't pretend to understand how that can be better than this life most of the rest of us lead but my son chose it too, for a long time. The drugs were paramount. Until one day they weren't. I am hoping for his safety and for you to find some peace and comfort. We are here for you. Warm hugs for your heart and his. I am so sorry it had happened. [/QUOTE]
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