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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 667668" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>Hello dear friend.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes. Not only did I focus on this with him, I used it in reference to one of my younger boys this morning as well...and it helped me settle down and get to work (his therapist called me while I was trying to get out the door to work..THAT is never good!)</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Good point. I hadn't really thought of that. Who doesn't seek the comfort of the known? We do that even when the known is bad. It is still less scary than the unknown. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes, having everyone chime in on the forum and tell me about their similar (startlingly similar) experiences was normalizing...and normalizing with our difficult children is very helpful. It takes the "oh my gosh what is wrong with him?" scary part away and replaces it with...Oh. He is doing that thing. Which is less scary, although no less frustrating. But being scared is bad, and a bad place from which to react. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I do have those skills, and yes, they do need refreshing. I set to work on that last night. I'm already better.</p><p></p><p>Thank you.</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 667668, member: 17269"] Hello dear friend. Yes. Not only did I focus on this with him, I used it in reference to one of my younger boys this morning as well...and it helped me settle down and get to work (his therapist called me while I was trying to get out the door to work..THAT is never good!) Good point. I hadn't really thought of that. Who doesn't seek the comfort of the known? We do that even when the known is bad. It is still less scary than the unknown. Yes, having everyone chime in on the forum and tell me about their similar (startlingly similar) experiences was normalizing...and normalizing with our difficult children is very helpful. It takes the "oh my gosh what is wrong with him?" scary part away and replaces it with...Oh. He is doing that thing. Which is less scary, although no less frustrating. But being scared is bad, and a bad place from which to react. I do have those skills, and yes, they do need refreshing. I set to work on that last night. I'm already better. Thank you. Echo [/QUOTE]
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