Hi all.... I am very behind and hope to catch up Owith everyone later today.... but thought I would let you know what is going on here. difficult child came back to town and called us Sunday. We went to see him. He looked really good (not real thin which is a relief). He is in this crazy situation with girlfriend (who is also a difficult child in my opinion) where she has some involvement with a much older man who is supporting her, and she in turn got my difficult child a hotel room and they were planning on eventually living together after difficult child proves he is committed to living a healthy life.... although difficult child was very unclear on what that meant exactly. He clearly is not totally sober as he ordered a beer at lunch (which he paid for because he knew we would not want to!). So its a situation of her having a sugar daddy and in turn being a sugar mama to difficult child.... kind of disgusting really. But it was good to see him and relieved my mind a little bit and I had a good night sleep that night. My husband and I are fully aware that eventually he will get in some kind of trouble and there are warrants out for his arrest. Well it didnt take long. He called Monday night from jail....he had smoked in the hotel room, set off the firre alarmm, the police came and ran him and he had 5 warrants out for his arrest. When he called he was crying and man I just melted and felt so bad for him. He begged me to go to court the next day. I had a work committment and told him I would try. I tossed and turned all night trying to figure out work and going to court. I know I dont want to enable him but my gut told me I needed to be there. I finally realized that my gut was saying to me his only chance of not becoming a hardened criminal is to know that his mother loves him. It gave me clarity and I cancelled stuff at court and I went.