TerryJ2
Well-Known Member
I was just thinking this a.m., we've gone for almost a wk with-no meltdowns ... I should sit down with-difficult child and tell him how proud I am of him, give him something special ... although, on our levels 1, 2, 3, he's been on the highest level for 3 days, so that's a reward in itself (he gets all privileges).
You know how you're afraid to post a "Good" note, for fear your luck may run out? I'm even afraid to think "Good"! LOL!
All week, difficult child has been going to the local country club with-easy child because she is a lifeguard, and she is allowed to bring a guest. This is a real treat for difficult child and for me; I get a break, he gets to be with-his big sister. (We are not members.) This morning I told difficult child that I would be picking him up early, and he would be going with-me to drop his bike off at the shop for repair.
In one of our counseling sessions, husband, difficult child, the counselor, and I talked about having husband and difficult child do some repairs on the bike as a father-son thing, and then take in the bike for the major repairs. He hasn't ridden his bike all summer.
Good deal, huh?
He started yelling and screaming about how he didn't want me to pick him up early, didn't want his bike fixed, never wanted to ride it again, only wanted to use his skateboard, blah blah blah.
Sheesh, sorry for doing something NICE!
I thought he had gotten to the point where he could transition with-o a meltdown. He's been so good about transitions all summer. Plus, I was giving him a 6 hr. heads-up.
He was so loud and obnoxious, I told him to stop it. End of discussion.
He started it up in the car again. I gave him another warning. He whined and cried louder. I told him that because of his behavior, I would pick him up early from the pool and he would get his wish--no bike repair. Instead, he would go straight to his room.
"I wasn't doing anything wrong!!!!"
You know, I think he really believes it.
I'm just sitting here, shaking my head.
You know how you're afraid to post a "Good" note, for fear your luck may run out? I'm even afraid to think "Good"! LOL!
All week, difficult child has been going to the local country club with-easy child because she is a lifeguard, and she is allowed to bring a guest. This is a real treat for difficult child and for me; I get a break, he gets to be with-his big sister. (We are not members.) This morning I told difficult child that I would be picking him up early, and he would be going with-me to drop his bike off at the shop for repair.
In one of our counseling sessions, husband, difficult child, the counselor, and I talked about having husband and difficult child do some repairs on the bike as a father-son thing, and then take in the bike for the major repairs. He hasn't ridden his bike all summer.
Good deal, huh?
He started yelling and screaming about how he didn't want me to pick him up early, didn't want his bike fixed, never wanted to ride it again, only wanted to use his skateboard, blah blah blah.
Sheesh, sorry for doing something NICE!
I thought he had gotten to the point where he could transition with-o a meltdown. He's been so good about transitions all summer. Plus, I was giving him a 6 hr. heads-up.
He was so loud and obnoxious, I told him to stop it. End of discussion.
He started it up in the car again. I gave him another warning. He whined and cried louder. I told him that because of his behavior, I would pick him up early from the pool and he would get his wish--no bike repair. Instead, he would go straight to his room.
"I wasn't doing anything wrong!!!!"
You know, I think he really believes it.
I'm just sitting here, shaking my head.