Our difficult child 2 is having big problems at home but doing OK at his traditional middle school. School thinks he's doing great. He hasn't done his daily writing homework assignment for his Special Education language arts class for 5 weeks and he's only getting a C- in Science. BUT he's behaving just fine at school. No fights, no tantrums, he dresses for PE etc. They are somewhat disbelieving about the problems outside of school especially that we had to call the cops twice due to bipolar rages. My question for folks on the board is whether you ever found yourself in a similar situation to this and there were tweaks or contingencies that you built into your child's IEP that were helpful in reducing their school-related stress and therefore helped reduce the severity of their mood swings outside of school. I'm thinking of proposing to the IEP team at my son's meeting next Tuesday that we give him a set number of "mental health days" to use during the semester. When he's feeling really stressed he can choose to stay home that day. He will have to make up his missed work but has 5 days to do get it done. I can see big pros and cons to this approach so I'm not sure if we'll do that or not. Anyone have any other suggestions?