toughlovin
Well-Known Member
My difficult child is trying to figure out what to do and called me.....I am trying to stay supportive and let him drive this bus! I have to do this. He has been in many treatment programs since he was 14. He knows the drill. He did an assessment for the Residential Treatment Center (RTC). What he really wants is to get on with living....he said as a teen he didn't really want to work but one thing he has really gotten in the last. 6 months is liking to work...and it's true this has been huge for him. So he wants to get into a sober living situation and look for a job and get back to work.
But if he goes into the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) etc. it will be awhile before he can get the privilege to get internet and look for sober living. And he won't be able to work either. The thought of sitting around all day doing groups he has done many times before is making him anxious and nuts.
I know it sounds like avoidance and excuses on his part but I really get what he is saying....because he has done it so many times before....that in some ways I think it is really triggering for him. I think he may be right and knows what he needs....the problem is how to get it?
I can look up info for him but I can't solve this for him, I can't make the calls for him....and I am not willing to put him up in a hotel until he figures it out. I suggested he talk to the staff at the detox and hopefully get their help in figuring it out. I just hope they will really listen to him and help him figure out the right plan for him and not just a standard cookie cutter solution.
So once again I am on tender hooks waiting to see what happens next.
But if he goes into the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) etc. it will be awhile before he can get the privilege to get internet and look for sober living. And he won't be able to work either. The thought of sitting around all day doing groups he has done many times before is making him anxious and nuts.
I know it sounds like avoidance and excuses on his part but I really get what he is saying....because he has done it so many times before....that in some ways I think it is really triggering for him. I think he may be right and knows what he needs....the problem is how to get it?
I can look up info for him but I can't solve this for him, I can't make the calls for him....and I am not willing to put him up in a hotel until he figures it out. I suggested he talk to the staff at the detox and hopefully get their help in figuring it out. I just hope they will really listen to him and help him figure out the right plan for him and not just a standard cookie cutter solution.
So once again I am on tender hooks waiting to see what happens next.