I went to an iep meeting this afternoon. This is the first we've had this year even though I'd been wanting one since early Oct. and I couldn't let them reschedule or put it off any longer due to difficult child missing so much school and knowing it would be turned over to courts soon and he's on probation. Well, this was a very useful iep meeting and I (and difficult child although he didn't attend) rec'd so much support and they are just more than willing to help. (CHOKE- it wasn't that long ago that I was in there telling them about my conversations with a Special Education attny). The principal wrote a great letter of recommendation for difficult child to take to court this past June, but I thought his lack of attendence and tardies this year would surely throw her over the edge. She said I could just email her and copy the sd cm when difficult child had trouble getting up and going to school and she'd make sure it got written as an excused absence. Also, this method means that difficult child doesn't have to know that I'm vouching for him because I was concerned about calling in saying he's sick and him getting the impression that he could just refuse to go to school whenever he felt like it. The principal said difficult child's behavior was great so far this year (no board jinx pleeeaaaase) and that he's getting along well and they really like him and that she would talk to PO and put a good word in if it would help. I think the biggest difference in the school personnel came when they realized that this isn't just "bad" or defiant behavior in difficult child and I'm not a mom just trying to cover for a delinquent kid or make excuses for him. Actually, that is what the principal has told me a couple of times this past year and I can't begin to tell you how working with them has improved since then. I can't believe the head-banging I used to have to go through with the sd before. I don't know if it applies in most situations, but in ours, I guess the big problem was that they thought difficult child was just a bad kid and I was making excuses. So, I'd just like to throw out there to everyone else who is having problems with the sd- don't give up the fight, make sure they know that you won't, but take plenty of "evidence" (letters from psychiatrist, etc) that your difficult child has a valid issue. Also, I took difficult child in for a couple of meetings with admin staff to work on issues he had by CPS and that seemed to help. Anyway, this on top of the meeting with the PO on Mon. has me convinced that something horrible must be right around the corner. LOL! Like- oh, I don't know- ....is he** freezing over??