As you know, after a big blow-up the other night, difficult child is staying at a friend's house for a few days to "cool off".
Friend's Mom was willing to take difficult child in temporarily, and she is highly confident that in just a short day or two, difficult child will no longer be angry and be ready to ask forgiveness and come home. (Obviously, friend's Mom does not know difficult child very well. LOL!)
Meanwhile, Friend's Mom has unwittingly set a bad precendent. She has told difficult child that any time things get bad at home, she is welcome to come stay for a few days. IOW - any time difficult child does not want to follow our rules, she can run off to friend's house and everything will be hunky-dory. Friend's Mom thinks she is doing a wonderful service and "saving" difficult child from going off and doing something she'll regret.
difficult child came over yesterday to get a couple of things and BOY was she COCKY! Rude to me...all kinds of attitude...and on her way back out the door she told me "Bye! See you whenever..."
So....we are not...shall we say..."eager" to get her home.
Legally, we cannot lock her out...
But I'll be d*mned if i'm gonna have this cocky "anytime-I-don't-like-what-you-say-I'll-just-go-to-friend's-house" teen terrorizing this household.
So -
What can I do ?
I'm thinking along the lines of stripping the bedroom and creating a big list of expectations.
What do you think?
Thanks for any suggestions...
Friend's Mom was willing to take difficult child in temporarily, and she is highly confident that in just a short day or two, difficult child will no longer be angry and be ready to ask forgiveness and come home. (Obviously, friend's Mom does not know difficult child very well. LOL!)
Meanwhile, Friend's Mom has unwittingly set a bad precendent. She has told difficult child that any time things get bad at home, she is welcome to come stay for a few days. IOW - any time difficult child does not want to follow our rules, she can run off to friend's house and everything will be hunky-dory. Friend's Mom thinks she is doing a wonderful service and "saving" difficult child from going off and doing something she'll regret.
difficult child came over yesterday to get a couple of things and BOY was she COCKY! Rude to me...all kinds of attitude...and on her way back out the door she told me "Bye! See you whenever..."
So....we are not...shall we say..."eager" to get her home.
Legally, we cannot lock her out...
But I'll be d*mned if i'm gonna have this cocky "anytime-I-don't-like-what-you-say-I'll-just-go-to-friend's-house" teen terrorizing this household.
So -
What can I do ?
I'm thinking along the lines of stripping the bedroom and creating a big list of expectations.
What do you think?
Thanks for any suggestions...