Okay Aunties - SHINE TIME - difficult child just

Discussion in 'The Watercooler' started by Star*, Nov 6, 2007.

  1. Star*

    Star* call 911........call 911

    <span style='font-size: 12'><span style="color: #FF0000"><span style='font-family: Comic Sans MS'>GOT A JOB!!!!</span></span></span>

    I just got the call from difficult child. And -
    -he's been going to school
    -he's been going to community service he's got 51 hours left out
    of 1000 and loves what he's doing working for the park service
    -he's been responsible with his new puppy (an American Bull). He
    has taken her to the vets, got her shots, wormed, and on a heart
    worm preventative - AND built a pen for her for the day time, and
    plays with her at night. Bathes her, and cares for her.
    -he sees his probation officer as scheduled
    -he is staying out of trouble and except for almost being killed
    twice - and having one reminder he's obeying most of the rules.

    I don't think anything shocked him so badly as the first/last time I went to visit for his TSP (total service plan) that I had all of his clothes, shoes, belongings with me and handed them to him. This was to let him know there is no coming home. I believe when I handed him his suit and he said "Can you put that back in my closet?" and I said "You don't have a closet at my house any longer." it was the beginning of his beginning.

    Tough love suc*ks but today it has it's rewards - dare I post them here and jinx myself. NO it won't jinx me to share good news!!!!!!!!!

    He starts work tonight 7-11. I dont know where, doing what or how much - I just know it's a JOB that PAYS.

    Had to share something GOOD for a change!
  2. susiestar

    susiestar Roll With It

    YOU ROCK!!!!!! WHATTA MOM!!!!!!!!!WOOOOOHOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    This board auntie is super-duper proud, and of difficult child too!!!!!!

    See they really CAN learn, just takes a LOT MORE to teach them.

    Hugs to you and to Stardude too!!!

  3. wakeupcall

    wakeupcall Well-Known Member

    Oh, thanks so much for letting me know that there IS a possibility that all this hard work could pay off some day. I'm so happy for your singing mommy heart.
  4. everywoman

    everywoman Active Member

    What, a job!!! I have tried and tried to explain to my difficult child the benefits of working---but he hasn't gotten it yet. What is your secret?
  5. Sunlight

    Sunlight Active Member

    <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">"You don't have a closet at my house any longer." </div></div>
    giggle. guffaw. a knowing smile and a wink.

    last week I emptied out ant's closet in his old bedroom and boxed it all and stacked it in the garage. it took me a long time to go thru his stuff left here from when first born, the papers, notes, pictures, stuff.... and weed it out, toss ome, give some to St Vincent de Paul and box the rest.
  6. bby31288

    bby31288 Active Member

    Whoo hoo!! You go difficult child! Great news. He gets a big :bravo: From me!
  7. totoro

    totoro Mom? What's a GFG?

    :bravo: :princess: :thumbsup: :dance: :slap:

    <span style="color: #6600CC"><span style='font-size: 12'>YIP YIP YIPPPEEEEE</span></span>

    Way to go Momma!!!!
  8. mrscatinthehat

    mrscatinthehat Seussical

    That is sooo cool. It is so nice to hear a success. Good for you and good for difficult child.

  9. Big Bad Kitty

    Big Bad Kitty lolcat

    Big high five from Auntie Bad Kitty!!

  10. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Well-Known Member

    Congratulations to difficult child!
  11. meowbunny

    meowbunny New Member

    What great news! Hope he likes the job and keeps it for a bit and then moves on to better.
  12. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful


    :bravo: :dance: :dance: :bravo:

    :fan: :fan:

    What a dramatic turn around!!! Excellent news!!! I know you've got to be one proud Momma!!

    Nothing like a whopping dose of cold harsh reality thrown in your face for a wake up call. OMG Star this is wonderful. I so hope it sticks!
  13. KFld

    KFld New Member

    Way to go girlfriend!!! I know how hard the tough love stuff is, but I truley believe my difficult child would not be where is right now without it.

    They won't do it for themselves until they know they have to.

    This auntie is very proud of him :smile:
  14. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    What a a great post to read!!Congrats to difficult child!!! :bravo: :dance: :skate: :smile:
  15. flutterbee

    flutterbee Guest

    :bravo: Way to go, difficult child!!! This must make your heart sing.
  16. VLong

    VLong New Member

    CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! :bravo: :bravo: :bravo:

    Star, it's amazing how tough love works...I know first-hand with Justin!

    Way to go, Stardude!!!!

    From a verrrrrrrrrrrrry proud board Auntie!

  17. Lothlorien

    Lothlorien Active Member

  18. timer lady

    timer lady Queen of Hearts

    :smile: :bravo: :dance: :skate: :its_all_good:


    What wonderful news - you did good, mom! :smile:
  19. Pam R

    Pam R New Member

    Besides the 2 incidents, it sounds like he's working his way through. I'm glad for you, and him.

    As far as the closet, as soon as my son moves out (he's been informed it's the day after he turns 18) his room is getting totally renovated (he's destroyed it) and will become my office/spare bedroom.

    Tough love is hard, but it does pay off. I hope the job works out for him, and he can move onto a better one once he's completed his other commitments.

    And I hope you didn't jinx yourself telling us. I think the same way also. :hammer:

    Pam R.
  20. Just keep swimming

    Just keep swimming New Member

    Woo Hoo! Way To Go Stardude! Way To Go Warrior Mom Star!!!

    Awesome news!!!