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<blockquote data-quote="AllStressedOut" data-source="post: 74067" data-attributes="member: 3837"><p>I love the idea of going to the dance with her. This truly is a natural consequence. She can't be trusted unsupervised, so now she'll be supervised in everything she does.</p><p></p><p>Before that suggestion was mentioned, my input would have been to keep her home. She can't be trusted out on her own, so she can't go.</p><p></p><p>If this were one of my kids, they'd be on some serious "hard labor" grounding. Meaning I would be making them do chores all day long. If I ran out of chores in the house, I'd be having them out in the yard doing yard work. I do believe in natural consequences, but I also believe in our society, punishment is part of the consequence. </p><p></p><p>Somewhat related, when my oldest easy child was 3, I was a single mom with he and his 1 yr old brother. We had just moved into a new apartment and my moms husband took him to the park that wasn't terribly far away the first day we moved in. A few days later it was nap time, and my room was in the back of the apartment and he and his brothers was down the hall towards the front. I was exhausted, so I laid down after laying them down. Well, about an hour later I was woken up to someone knocking very hard on my door. It was the Police Department. My 3 yr old easy child had decided to go to the park. He climbed up on the half wall next to the front door, unlocked the handle, the TWO deadbolts above as well as the chain lock, put on his shoes and shut the door behind him. A family of illegal immigrants found him and didn't want to get involved with the police, so they gave him to another family. They called the police and he could tell them he lived in a new apartment, but we were surrounded by apartments. He knew his name, so the officer took him to several different offices until they matched his name to the names listed as occupents in the apartment. I cried hysterically and just kept telling myself what a horrible mom I was. To this day, my 12 year old easy child still remembers how upset I was. After this happened, he would draw pictures of himself at the front door with a red circle around the door and a line through it, like a no-smoking sign, but this was a do not go outside sign. He would lecture his 1 year old brother for years to come about the dangers of going outside without letting mommy know. I was amazed at how much my emotional reaction hit home with him.</p><p></p><p>Maybe some serious crying all the while talking about the possibilities of what could have happened to your 3 and 5 year old will touch some empathy in your 13 year old difficult child?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AllStressedOut, post: 74067, member: 3837"] I love the idea of going to the dance with her. This truly is a natural consequence. She can't be trusted unsupervised, so now she'll be supervised in everything she does. Before that suggestion was mentioned, my input would have been to keep her home. She can't be trusted out on her own, so she can't go. If this were one of my kids, they'd be on some serious "hard labor" grounding. Meaning I would be making them do chores all day long. If I ran out of chores in the house, I'd be having them out in the yard doing yard work. I do believe in natural consequences, but I also believe in our society, punishment is part of the consequence. Somewhat related, when my oldest easy child was 3, I was a single mom with he and his 1 yr old brother. We had just moved into a new apartment and my moms husband took him to the park that wasn't terribly far away the first day we moved in. A few days later it was nap time, and my room was in the back of the apartment and he and his brothers was down the hall towards the front. I was exhausted, so I laid down after laying them down. Well, about an hour later I was woken up to someone knocking very hard on my door. It was the Police Department. My 3 yr old easy child had decided to go to the park. He climbed up on the half wall next to the front door, unlocked the handle, the TWO deadbolts above as well as the chain lock, put on his shoes and shut the door behind him. A family of illegal immigrants found him and didn't want to get involved with the police, so they gave him to another family. They called the police and he could tell them he lived in a new apartment, but we were surrounded by apartments. He knew his name, so the officer took him to several different offices until they matched his name to the names listed as occupents in the apartment. I cried hysterically and just kept telling myself what a horrible mom I was. To this day, my 12 year old easy child still remembers how upset I was. After this happened, he would draw pictures of himself at the front door with a red circle around the door and a line through it, like a no-smoking sign, but this was a do not go outside sign. He would lecture his 1 year old brother for years to come about the dangers of going outside without letting mommy know. I was amazed at how much my emotional reaction hit home with him. Maybe some serious crying all the while talking about the possibilities of what could have happened to your 3 and 5 year old will touch some empathy in your 13 year old difficult child? [/QUOTE]
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