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PatriotsGirl
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She lost her job the first day at Waffle House. I found out it was because not only was she late to work her first day (she was dependant on A hole for the ride) but when she showed up with him, they assumed she must have used and let her go.
She still claims to not be using. Of course, I cannot be sure of anything and quite frankly, I am so tired of my life revolving around it. She doesn't look as bad as she did, she has all of her color back (she used to be pale and grey) and she doesn't have that violent spew throwing attitude she had when using. She was alert, but not hyper and was not falling asleep everywhere we went - good signs. She says she is tired of having nothing and losing everything. She expected me to see this huge difference in her when I saw her and she was upset that I didn't, but sheesh, it is going to take a bit longer before she looks completely healthy again. But, I know that I cannot rely on my assumptions either as I have learned over and over again.
I know I will get raked over the coals for this but - she has a car now. husband and I gave her my old one. Wrong wrong wrong. Yes, I know. Sometimes we do things that are in our best interest, not theirs. We feel better knowing she has a way to get back and forth to a job without relying on A hole or anyone else. We just do not have public transportation in our little towns. Now she can get the medical care she desperately needs as well - she has an appointment today thank goodness. She also plans on living in the car if she needs to as sad as that is.
So yes, I know it was wrong and was selfish on our part, but I do feel a bit better. Giving her that jalopy also gave her independence from him. Maybe now she can truly move on without him.
So that is my update - not much of one, but I had to confess to my fellow warrior moms of our set back in detachment and enabling...
She still claims to not be using. Of course, I cannot be sure of anything and quite frankly, I am so tired of my life revolving around it. She doesn't look as bad as she did, she has all of her color back (she used to be pale and grey) and she doesn't have that violent spew throwing attitude she had when using. She was alert, but not hyper and was not falling asleep everywhere we went - good signs. She says she is tired of having nothing and losing everything. She expected me to see this huge difference in her when I saw her and she was upset that I didn't, but sheesh, it is going to take a bit longer before she looks completely healthy again. But, I know that I cannot rely on my assumptions either as I have learned over and over again.
I know I will get raked over the coals for this but - she has a car now. husband and I gave her my old one. Wrong wrong wrong. Yes, I know. Sometimes we do things that are in our best interest, not theirs. We feel better knowing she has a way to get back and forth to a job without relying on A hole or anyone else. We just do not have public transportation in our little towns. Now she can get the medical care she desperately needs as well - she has an appointment today thank goodness. She also plans on living in the car if she needs to as sad as that is.
So yes, I know it was wrong and was selfish on our part, but I do feel a bit better. Giving her that jalopy also gave her independence from him. Maybe now she can truly move on without him.
So that is my update - not much of one, but I had to confess to my fellow warrior moms of our set back in detachment and enabling...