Oldest has come a long way

Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by CrazyinVA, May 18, 2011.

  1. CrazyinVA

    CrazyinVA Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Oldest posted this on my FB wall this morning:

    "With everything becoming so big lately with [charity event she's organizing] I just want to thank you for all your support. I couldn't be more grateful to have such a wonderful Mom. I love you so much and know I couldn't do all this without learning what hard work is from such a wonderful woman and role model <3"

    When I think about how bad things have been in the past, this is truly astounding to me. This was the child who was a violent, angry, manipulative, pain-pill addicted, full-blown borderline, escorted out of my home by the police at age 19. She still has plenty of borderline tendencies, refuses treatment, and is neglectful of her health to the point where I worry she'll have some serious consequences one day, but she's a survivor, and has become genuinely appreciative of me and even respectful of the tough love I practiced over the years. She seems to have found her "niche" in life, as an event organizer/promotions rep for local bars and organizations, and has single-handedly set up a local group that holds monthly happy hours at local bars, where all tips are donated to a charity. She's got radio stations and beer distributors sponsoring the events now.

    I'm pretty darn proud of her, and pray that she can continue down this positive path. Of course, she's still a difficult child and part of me is holding my breath, wondering if it will all blow up... but for now, it's wonderful to watch her success.
  2. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful

    Fabulous update crazy! :beautifulthing::bigsmile:

    She has come so far, you have every right to be bursting with pride!

    I hope it continues for her. As for the medical issues........well, that may come as more maturity sets in.

  3. dashcat

    dashcat Member

    You so deserve this! I'm happy she was able to post from her heart.
  4. Estherfromjerusalem

    Estherfromjerusalem Well-Known Member

    What a wonderful message! I do think that as they get older, they "get it" more or less. It is heart-warming to read your post. It gives hope to all of us. Your "tough love" was obviously successful. I wish her every success.

    Love, Esther
  5. shellyd67

    shellyd67 Active Member

    Great news !! The fact that she has a job she loves and thrives at is just wonderful !
  6. busywend

    busywend Well-Known Member Staff Member

    What a great kid!
    I know that joy of having your difficult child suddenly appreciate you. And I do not think it is possible until they are out of the house. I think they really 'get it' when they have to do it on their own.

    I am soooo happy for you!!